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It started around my 36th birthday. I had decided NOT to have anymore children, my only child was 4, I was a busy working mom and my husband was no help when it came to raising her. His motto was "I have to pay attention all day at work, I don't want to pay attention at home." It didnt' occurt to him that I also worked fulltime outside the home and occasionally didn't WANT to pay attention at home either. So I disucssed having my tubes tied with my doctor...got my husband's signature (why HE had to sign the papers since it was MY body and MY decision I will never know) and had my tubes tied. Within 6 months I began having menstrual trobules...the cramps were unbearable, mor like labor pains. There were times I could not physically get out of bed in the morning and my then almost 5 year old daughter would take care of me...giving me back rubs, bringing me water to help me take my pain meds...she was a great kid. Shortly after I reached my 38th birthday my periods began to go completely crazy and I figured it was menopause. I would have periods that lasted for two weeks then go for 3 or 4 monhts without. Of course the male doctors (Military none the less) were aboslutely certain it was ALL in my head and that I had no idea what I was talking about...I was, according to them too young for menopaus...never mind the fact that all the women on my mother's side of the family entered menopause in the mid to late 30s. Ths went on for another two years...accompanied by the pain. I suffered through D&C's and every test but they still had no clue. FINALLY one afternoon I called from work. I was in severe pain and flowing like a raging river...I couldn't change pads fast enough! The only one who could see me at the time was a female Nurse Practioner, I didn't care I wanted help and I wanted it NOW! As soon as I told her about the problems I had been having for almost 5 years she asked if I had ever thought about a hysterectomy...Only every other day but none of the doctors there would agree to it. She gave me a referal to a civilian Doctor who was able to see me the next day and his advice was the same...hyesterectomy. He agreed that there was a good possibility I was perimenopausal considering my family history and He wrote a letter to the OBGYN surgeon at the base concerning HIS findings and recomendations. The base obgyn surgeon was on leave for 2 months so my surgery had to wait three more months after I turned 40 I was so eager to end the pain and torment that I began counting the days. Finally January 15 arrived I was checked in had blood tests, signed all the paper work then the big question. "We're going to take your Uterus only so far...seeing how you have no intentions of having any more children and based on your troubles with periods would you want us to take your ovaries as well?" YES! So more paperwork...and one more signature needed to be had...my husbands. I didn't bat an eye...all he did was ask if I was sure it was what I wanted and when I said yes...he signed...if he hadn't I think I would have snorfledoodled him right then and there. He was less than helpful during my recovery but there were no major complications...in fact I became better mannered and didn't have the mood swings I did before. I also became more active with our daughter and a much better mom to her. Now almost 10 years later I am in the midsts of divorcing the husband...don't feel sorry it is something I want and not a sad situation. I am enjoying an active sex life...and enjoying it without the threat of a possible pregnancy at my age hanging over my head. I have gained considerable weight but am working on getting it off and I am still psychologically much better off to me the surgery was what I needed to bring me back to being a woman. And any man who feels his lady isn't a woman after she has her surgery isn't really a man. I hope my story helps someone else on the verge, someone looking for direction. No surgery isn't for everyone and it isn't always the cure to the problem but it has helped me and I view it as the very best birthday present I ever got...belated yes but the best.
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