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Not Childless - Do I Have a Right To Be Sad?

Not Childless - Do I Have a Right To Be Sad?

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I have a wonderful thirteen year old son that I thank God for, but I have wanted another child since he was two. Now that it is 100% impossible for me to have another child, everywhere I look people are having babies. The one thing that is making it so hard for me is that I know a couple of young girls who have had babies recently and one who is due in a couple months that really didn't need a baby right now. Everybody keeps saying, "just be grateful for the one you have" Trust me, I AM!!! I still have days where I just sit and think what if. Do I even have the right to be sad? I feel guilty for feeling like this.

Of course you have the right to be sad, the plan you had for your life has changed. We often go through a grieving process after the loss, but time has a way of healing. There's no right or wrong here. You're just sad, that's all.

It doesn't matter if you never thought you wanted children or always wanted them. Or if you never had them or had several children. It hurts to have the ability to have children taken away.

Members of HysterSisters.com often report they are surprised by their emotional thoughts after their surgery. Even if they have children and hadn't planned to have more, the loss of the womb is an emotional experience.

Take time to grieve your loss. Share your pain with others who understand. Find friends who fill your life with goodness and kindness. Be good to yourself.

This content was written by staff of HysterSisters.com by non-medical professionals based on discussions, resources and input from other patients for the purpose of patient-to-patient support.

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