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It's been several years since my hysterectomy. I've been seeing a psychologist for almost a year, because it got to the point where I almost killed myself. I've always wanted children of my own and that's never going to happen. Surrogacy and adoption are expensive and I don't feel emotionally prepared for that kind of decision right now.
Unlike many of you, we don't have any nieces or nephews. Caregiving my Mom is also emotionally draining because I know she wanted grandkids. Is anyone else dealing with the loss and the reality that there are no other children in my life and feeling guilty for letting mom down?
Its very good that you are seeking help both here at HysterSisters.com and from a professional. That takes courage!
It's a normal feeling that you let down your parents for not having children. And its normal feeling additional loss over not having other children in your life to invest yourself.
As you feel emotionally healthy, you may find yourself trying to focus on new opportunities, unrelated to having children and children, or just a different focus entirely. This will not negate or replace the ache you feel but is there a way to find something that will give you a purpose and meaning in place of children. Check out a book called "Out Live Your Life" by Max Lucado maybe it will give you some ideas. Many HysterSisters.com members find a new purpose in helping other women on the forums through feelings just like you are describing.
Be encouraged. You have taken a great big step towards healing by seeking professional help and reaching out for friends.
This content was written by staff of HysterSisters.com by non-medical professionals based on discussions, resources and input from other patients for the purpose of patient-to-patient support.
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LSH/BSO 8+weeks & feeling great! (children mentioned)
LAVH Wednesday, home Thursday and feeling pretty good (children mentioned)
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Recommended for Hysterectomy Recovery
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