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Options to Hysterectomy
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Grief and Loss
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Ask A Doctor

"I feel these boards are made up of the strongest of the strong of women and you are one of them. Only those who have been there can really understand the feelings of loss and frustration and questioning that a woman goes through when she has surgery, hoping for relief from the physical problems that hinder her daily living and then to find she continues to struggle to heal and to have the life she has dreamed of for so long.

I'm so sorry to see your struggle. It sounds like you have had a lot to deal with for a long time now. I think any of us would be tired and tempted to discouragement. If your dr has found tissue that needs treated, this could very well be the source of your pain during sex. I hope that, given the time to heal now this will be a better situation for you soon. Have you asked your dr about the possibility of using some vaginal estrogen to help these tissues heal? It has been quite a while since your surgery, this might be something that would help your body turn the corner and finally heal completely.

Please don't allow the thoughts of being less of a woman continue to haunt you. You are understandably discouraged and tired of this process, but the woman you have always been is still there. She is in the heart and soul of who you are. These physical challenges did not remove her. She is the woman who longs to care for her children and see them healthy and growing strong. She is there wanting to relate to and please her dh. I think what we all feel is a deep sense of failure when we can't be what we long to be for those we love because of the personal struggles of the moment within ourselves.

You have what it takes to over come every situation that comes your way. Look at what all you have already come through. I can see a strong, wonderful woman who is just going through a difficult time. Try not to speculate on the future what-if's. Take care of each day as it comes and don't worry about tomorrow. There is grace enough for today."

I am sorry you are going through a rough time now. A hysterectomy can bring emotional and physical issues for some of us. You are not alone with what you are experiencing. We feel a loss, and it is normal to be sad and grieve.I am glad you came to Hyster Sisters to share what you are going through, as it helps to know others are going through similar feelings. Your sisters are here for you.

In my opinion, I think it takes a much stronger type of woman to brace herself, make the decision for the surgery that will save her life, and do whatever it takes to manage the consequences.

That's who I see in you. LESS of a woman -NO WAY.
You are much more than most women I see day in and out.

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Recommended for Hysterectomy Recovery

The HysterSisters Store has gathered products made specifically for your recovery from surgery. Here are the best sellers we can recommend to help you:

• The Great Binder Set - We have made it very easy for you and combined the two best binders and the Silky Sac into a great set to save you money! Our favorite is the Perfect Pocket binder with cold/hot packs!
• Deluxe Hyst Prep Set - As you plan, we've gathered the best products into one set for special pricing.
• Post-Op Panty - These great panties speed recovery, and reduces scarring. They contain a medical-grade silicone panel over incision to reduce scar's apperance while they provide support to weakened muscles and tissues from surgery. Excellent!
• Softest Bra Ever - When you want to wear something, but feel nothing. This is the softest bra ever, in microfiber with no hardware or tags to chafe or dig! The comfort-ribbed underband stays in place gently, so it is perfect for sleeping and lounging.
• HysterSisters Accessory Kit - Are you a HysterSisters fan? This set has a fun collection of HysterSisters items.
• Very Private Moisture - Once your doctor gives you the green light for intimacy, this is the stuff! This is a best selling product with a high rate of permanent, satisfied, repeat customers! Relieves vaginal dryness instantly, protects tissue & enhances intimacy. "Buy it for the problem, use it for the pleasure."