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After suffering for years with extreme bleeding and attempts to rectify the mess, I received the news today that I would be having "lap" hysterectomy surgery. Instead of feeling joy to be rid of the constant problem, I felt sadness. I have a grown child and grandchildren, so it's not about conceiving. It's just kinda like I'm losing something that is mine.

From the hearts of our HysterSisters members:

"I have never been fortunate to have children, and at 54 pretty much accepted that as God's plan for me and menopause made it a sure thing, but when I was told I was going to have surgery, I felt like I was losing the part of me that made me female and I felt sad and teary for a couple of days, pretty much decided that it is my brain that makes me female nothing to do with the parts, but still I wonder. So yes feel like a am losing a part of myself."

"I had some moments when I doubted needing the surgery, but now that I am on the other side, I know it was the right thing to do. we all have those thoughts run through our minds when we finally make that appointment."

"Because I went through menopause and still had all of my female parts, I thought I would be taking them to the grave with me at a ripe old age. It made me very sad to lose that special part of me where my son was conceived. But my cancer diagnosis gave me no choice. I think you are wise to concentrate on the relief from the discomfort and the accidents that you will be experiencing. Best wishes to you."

"Having the hysterectomy was very necessary and I knew that, but I wanted to hold on to what, in my mind, was a very special part of my "woman-ness". Even though I knew I wasnt ever going to be able to conceive before the hysterectomy, the word "barren" kept coming to my mind .. things like "empty", "incomplete", stuff like that."

"Yes, even though I was 54 at the time of my hyst, I cried. I was on an emotional roller coaster, never knew how I would react to anything. You sound very normal to me. "

"I most definitely cried. Every now and again I still cry. You are losing a part of you and a part that you've been taught is a way special part of you that is a focus of your being a woman. So of course you are going to grieve and cry. Small consolation but you are normal."

"Oh yes - its part of the process. I was thinking how I carried these parts around with me always, so it felt strange to give up something you cannot remake. But now I see it really wasn't serving me...more then that , there were high costs to parts that had become problematic-that I couldn't use anymore anyways (that was the toughest realization). Then I realized it is that journey in life, where we use things as are needed, and then must learn to put down old ways, things, etc that do not SERVE us anymore. The way of the world. Letting go is hard for the human race it seems. Maybe because it represents milestones. This one for me signified an end to a certain youthful chapter. And with youth are all the possibilites in theory."

"A hysterectomy hits us in the middle of the physical center of our womanhood. The uterus is all caught up with our feelings about ourselves as women--as sexual beings, as mothers, as adults, as symbols of fertility, etc. I didn't realize this until I first contemplated having a hysterectomy two years ago. I have been done having kids for some time now, but my feelings about the loss of the possibility of ever having more caught me off guard."

"I used to think of my breasts as a sign of my womanhood--until I first faced the prospect of a hysterectomy. Every important stage of my life has involved my uterus, and knowing that I will no longer have it makes me sad. As I get closer to my surgery (next week already), I find that I'm grieving just a bit."

This content was written by staff of HysterSisters.com by non-medical professionals based on discussions, resources and input from other patients for the purpose of patient-to-patient support.

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