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I was just diagnosed with GYN cancer. I’ve been putting on a brave face for family and friends, but inside I’m a quivering mass of terror. What do I do? What’s the right way to react to a cancer diagnosis?
There is no “right way” to react to a cancer diagnosis. When we hear the dreaded “C” word, we all react in our own way. It is absolutely normal to feel terrified and confused, with a million questions immediately springing into your mind. Or you might go completely blank and numb, unable to process anything at first. You might swing quickly into “fight” mode, demanding an action plan and becoming a bundle of purposeful action. Or you might cry uncontrollably until you can’t cry any more.
Here are some comments from HysterSisters who have been through it:
“I am sorry that you are going through this. You asked, "What do I do?".... You do whatever you need to do to get through this. If you need to cry, then do it, If you need to be brave, then do it. Getting support from HysterSisters who are going through the same thing may be a great help as well. My mother was diagnosed with cancer, and they told her they might have to remove her arm; she immediately began training her left hand to do everything—they did not remove her arm in the end, but I was just amazed at my mother and how she attacked her cancer with a fight. I am one who is more apt to cry and carry on, but that is my coping mechanism. Women are amazing and strong. Many of us have fought many battles for others, so do the same for yourself. I love it when people are able to use humor as one of their coping mechanisms. Lean on others and move forward as positively as possible. I am sending you pure, positive energy that will anoint you with love this very moment. Just know that you are not alone and allow others to support you at this time.”
“I can completely understand why you would be upset, and you have every right to be. Maybe instead of hiding the emotions, you can find someone to talk to regularly, or just let a few people in, so you can have those closest to you there to talk. You WILL get through this! Big hugs...stay strong...courage can get us through much of life!”
“You fight it one day at a time. Sometimes hour-by-hour. Take many deep breaths. Cry when you need to. Give yourself some extra pampering. And just hold on.
When you know your chemo agent, post it on the Cancer Concerns forum. I'm sure someone can give you tips on how to manage the side effects. Each agent is different, so it helps to know which one(s) you'll be on.
This is a time to be extra gentle with yourself. It’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to set limits. You will have to speak up about what YOUR needs are. Sometimes even the best of intentions by our loved ones can be a little wrong. There is a video on YouTube about "what NOT to say to someone battling cancer.” Just do a search for it and you should find it easily. I didn't find it until years after my journey, but I don't think it would be a bad idea to pass it along to your loved ones. It gets really tiring dealing with "good intentions" when all you want at that moment is someone to ask what it is YOU need. The video is a lighthearted way of explaining that.”
“I can vouch for fact that this website is the most awesome place to be when you need a friend! A lot of my friends have not had the experience of receiving a cancer diagnosis, so they aren't exactly sure what to say or do, but the ladies on this site have done it all! If you're scared, they are quick to send love, hugs, and prayers your way. If you have good news, they rejoice with you. If you have not so good news, they hang in there with you. My sisters have been a great support to me over the past few months—just being able to talk about the things that worry me and then find out that I am "normal" is a huge thing. So, we're there for you. A lot of people will say, "I know how you feel,” but those of us who have walked this road before you and are still walking DO know exactly how you feel. You are strong, probably stronger than you think, but do not feel like you can't acknowledge what you feel. It helps to cry and talk it out sometimes. No one will think you are a wimp, I promise. Sending hugs and prayers your way. Praying that you will find increased strength to face the days ahead - one day at a time!”
This content was written by staff of HysterSisters.com by non-medical professionals based on discussions, resources and input from other patients for the purpose of patient-to-patient support.
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