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Resuming Intimacy After Hysterectomy
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SHARING IS CARING
My doctor has given me the green light to resume sexual activities with my husband, but I'm worried and a bit scared. Any suggestions?
After your doctor releases you to resume intercourse, you may feel excited and enthused, or nervous and scared. No matter which group you fall into, you are not alone. Women experience a variety of emotions connected to this segment of their post-op return to real life
Whether you feel confident or timid, it would be wise to proceed with caution. You should look forward to reconnecting with your partner, but don't expect intercourse to automatically be exactly how it was before. While some women do just fine immediately after being cleared for intercourse, it may take others a number of months to really feel back to normal. The key words here are slowly
. Especially if you had a TVH
, there can still be some swelling and tenderness, even as far as six weeks post-op, that can make penetration uncomfortable.
On the flip side, sometimes nerves are cut during the vaginal hysterectomy, so you may not feel the usual sensations at first. As the nerves regenerate and the wounds heal, however, those sensations should start to come back.
In all cases, remind your partner that your body is still “new” and delicate in the pelvic area, and that you will need to be in control of the action.
Another thing: there should be no pressure when returning to intercourse. Even if you have clearance from your doctor, you should both feel ready—physically, mentally, and emotionally before resuming intercourse. Take time to talk to your partner and come up with a plan for that first time. Plan to make it special and romantic. Consider including a glass of wine or a massage to relax you and help set the mood. It is also a good idea to have a lubricant
available, even if you never needed one in the past.
Intimacy is more than a physical act; it includes all the tenderness and affection you share as a couple. Being ready mentally and emotionally will help your body physically respond the way it was designed to.
If everything heals properly, most women do resume normal and pleasurable physical relationships if that is what they experienced in the past.
This content was written by staff of HysterSisters.com by non-medical professionals based on discussions, resources and input from other patients for the purpose of patient-to-patient support.
04-12-2003 - 10:31 AM
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