I need my mother now, most of all!

Well, i am now less than two weeks from surgery( Hey, I count the hours!), and I need to talk to my mother so badly. She passed in 2006 from metastatic breast cancer, and I am normally able to cope, but at this moment, two weeks from surgery, i need to talk to her. I need her to hold my hand...

I am facing the reality that we can never have our own children. We had decided after years of infertility and losses, that we were done trying, but to be handed the severe adeno diagnosis, it was different somehow. Like we had the choice taken from us.

My fibroid symptoms, or perhaps the adeno, or endo, all of it, has become worse and worse lately, like my female organs have decided to have one last horrah, lol! I only worked 2 hours today, with my hubby's help on a plumbing job, and came home only to find myself bleeding and in so much pain. My boss asked if I wanted to do another this week, and I hate to disappoint her, but don't want to cause more issues!

My grandfather passed away last Wednesday and we tried to make the funeral, but had major car issues, as in it took 9 hours to go what normally would take 3, just to turn around and come home! It just seems that everything is piling up right now, and i want my mommy!!!

I am so sorry ladies, i just need that motherly support, and even from my mother-in-law, i don't recieve it. i called her to talk about my pain and bleeding, and she says, just do it ( go work more). I hear from her all the time how she did it, raising three kids. I just want to yell, "Oh yeah, well, I'm not you, and I have WAY more issues than you did." i just need some support and a listening ear, not "I was superwoman" speech every time! I tried to explain to my husband that I just want her to say, "I understand, everything will be ok. want some chocolate cookies?" lol!

Sign, thank you ladies, for my cry/vent. I just need to hear I am not alone!

thank you for all that you do!!!

My heart breaks for you. I wish I could hold your hand and tell you everything will be alright. I would not only offer you those cookies , but cake, cupcakes and any other sweet that would help. It does seem that things pile up when we are at our lowest, but our strength always shines through.

While I know its not the same, could you write a letter to your mom? Sometimes writing things out helps us to deal with our emotions.

I will pray for peace for you and please know that we are all here for you. Wishing you a smooth surgery and uneventful recovery. ((()))

Aliciathelton...YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!! And if I had your address I'd be shipping you Oreos...or your chocolate cookie of choice to your address immediately!!! Hang in there...sounds like you've gotta a lot to get through...but this too will pass!!! Take it one day at a time!!!

Hope things get easier for you as the days pass...Hugs coming your way!!! :-)

You are definitely not alone....I lost my mom last month. She died quietly in her sleep but suffered a long time from altzhiemers. I really had lost her a long time ago. I find often that I wish I could call her and ask her all these questions. I am planning to call my doctor today to book my hyster and I missing all her support for myself and even for my kids. My husband is great but its not the same . I only have 1 friend who has been through this, so this website has been a great source of information. There are so many little questions and I have no one to ask.....my thoughts and prayers are with you for a speedy recovery!

Painfree- Thank you!! That is a good idea, I will try it!

Meka, ohhhh, oreos!! and a gallon of milk? hehe! I know, this too shall pass, and I can feel her watching too!

jljkcp, Hi and welcome too! I am so sorry. This time you're are going through is tough, but eventually, it does get better. I do not have any friends that have been on this journey, come to think of it. My mother in law ( fat lotta good she is) and my grandmother has. My grandmother had fibroids as well, and is more than willing to help, but it has been about 35 years, so he memory is a tad fuzzy!

Thanks so much girls!!!

Totally understand, lost my Mom 6 years ago, and would give anything to have her here right now. She had a hyst at a young age too. I think the letter idea sounds great! Gonna try one now!

Maybe you could sit down at your computer with some cookies and milk and let us "talk" to you as if we were your mom.

My mother died two days before my surgery, also of cancer, after several years of dementia. Like jljkcp, I had long ago lost the relationship that I was used to having with her. I was just glad I didn't ever have to tell her I had cancer, but it would have been nice to be able to talk to her about everything.

Just know that you're doing the best you can, and you have to take care of yourself. Sounds like you have a wonderful husband and he will be a big help. I'll say a prayer for you and your doctors, that everything will go well and you will have a wonderful, smooth, uneventful recovery!

HI gals!
Rene, I am soooo sorry I missed you here! Mine is closing in on 6, in December. Did you do a letter to her?

Anne ( that was my mom's middle name!), I am so sorry! If you felt as we did, with my mom and grandfather, we kind of sighed relief. I know that sounds odd to some, but we knew they did not have to fight and suffer any more!

Well, I DID have one setback that I wanted her again, but DH kept me up. My surgeon fractured her hand one week before my surgery, April 2nd, and I have been pushed back to the 23rd.... Sigh!

This, too , shall pass!

"Well, i am now less than two weeks from surgery( Hey, I count the hours!), and I need to talk to my mother so badly. She passed in 2006 from metastatic breast cancer, and I am normally able to cope, but at this moment, two weeks from surgery, i need to talk to her. I need her to hold my hand..."

Hugs
I can understand how you feel. My mom's been gone now for 20 years but I still talk to her. I believe she is watching over me, helping and protecting me.

Your mom is watching over you too. So tell her what you want to say, she is listening. Take care.

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Originally Posted by Alicathelton HI gals! Rene, I am soooo sorry I missed you here! Mine is closing in on 6, in December. Did you do a letter to her? Anne ( that was my mom's middle name!), I am so sorry! If you felt as we did, with my mom and grandfather, we kind of sighed relief. I know that sounds odd to some, but we knew they did not have to fight and suffer any more! Well, I DID have one setback that I wanted her again, but DH kept me up. My surgeon fractured her hand one week before my surgery, April 2nd, and I have been pushed back to the 23rd.... Sigh! This, too , shall pass!

Oh, I am so sorry you have to rearrange your whole schedule, but just trust that the timing will work out right for you.

And yes, there is a measure of relief that she is no longer having all the confusion and the pain she was having near the end. You do grieve over the years as you lose them bit by bit. But I think no matter how old we get, women still wish we could talk to our mothers! If we're lucky, we have some friends who can stand in for them, and we'll try to do that for you here.