Hard Decisions, age 23, need hyst, but want a baby, although my husband doesn't

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Originally Posted by smileysister I am 23 years old. I have always wanted a large family. I grew up in one. My husband already had a child with his ex-wife. We married in 2007. He let me have a baby in 2009. Then he said that that was it. He would not have anymore. I grieved not having another ever since and now it is 2012. I finally started to feel better about myself, then complications started on my health. I wasn't supposed to get pregnant in the first place, because of all of the cysts I've had on my ovaries. Well I was blessed with one pregnancy. It was not easy. I haven't seen a doctor since and recently I finally went to a doctor over bladder troubles. He said that I couldn't handle another child and that I needed a hysterectomy and a bladder sling. My heart broke again. It is one thing for a doctor to tell me I can't have more kids. It is another to make it impossible. I know I need this done for my health, but I can't help but to feel that I am being cheated out of a future child. By my husband first, and then by my doctor. My husband is great to me and everything and I love him deeply, but he said that even if I didn't get this done than he was going to get a vasectomy. I am so heartbroken by everything. I know I am blessed with the family that I do have, but I figured somebody on here would understand where I am coming from. I have made the decision to go with the surgery, because it should fix a lot of my health problems, but it doesn't help my emotional problems.

Wow its like reading my own story. I had my hyster today but i wanted just 1 more kid so bad but my husband was completely against it. After much talking i unserstood where he was coming from (cost, we have 2 healthy kids boy and girl, and getting pregnant is risky health wise) although it didnt make my decision easier.