im on my own:(

im home now from staying at my parents for 2 days. hubby wont help. this is the 1st time i sat down since being home at 2pm. been running around and my back is killing me..and i still have launrdy to do and make up the beds. ive already been kicked in the stomach by my 2 year old changing her pull-up already. I had to get my own belonging out of the car, hubby wouldnt help..i had to get the kids out of the car seat. I want to curl up in a ball and cry. all he thinks he should do is go to work and go to bed. and i do everything else ..even when i just had surgery. he wont even get me or make me anything to eat..i have to do it all..im about to go drive to get something to eat. and im only 4 days post op

Honey your husband doesn't get it. Have him watch the surgery video or talk to your doctor. You only have one chance to heal right. Go back to your folks if you have to.

Omg. Your husband needs to realize that you just had major surgery. I am so so sorry that you are going through this. I agree with melbaremy, he needs to speak with your surgeon. Do you have any other family that can help you out?

you're going to end back up in the hospital with complications if you keep up at this pace. you need to rest... I agree with the others. He needs to get on board that you had major surgery.

If my husband did that to me, I'd be serving his meal with a side of divorce papers! As long as he sees you keep doing everything, he's going to think you're OK. If you feel like crying from the pain, do it! I wouldn't hide a single symptom that you've done too much. If he still doesn't get it in a day or two (and I wouldn't give him much more than that) I'd high tail it back to my parents house.

I'm so sorry you are having to deal with his inconsiderate *** on top of having major surgery.I agree with everything already said.I would express my feelings and concerns to him once.If he does not listen go back to your parents or a friends maybe? You are way to early in recovery to be doing any of the stuff you mentioned....ANY OF IT! At this stage you should be resting.Taking short walks(and that's it) Please go somewhere where you can get the help and support you need before you hurt yourself and end up with a longer recovery.(((hugs)))

I too agree with what others have said and am sorry for your situation. You do not deserve this. I hope you can find some support soon. Hugs.

Like everyone has said, go back and stay with your parents for a while longer. You will end up back in the hospital if you keep doing all that you are. You HAVE to rest and let your body heal. I hope things get better for you.

I totally agree with the other sisters. You need to stop doing everything and go rest. If you have to go back to your parents to get help, then go.Good luck to you!

Sweetie, the beds don't need made...let the laundry go. Stay in bed. Can your kids go to your parents or with others for a few days? Don't worry about dinner, let your kids eat lunchables or microwave meals - it won't hurt for a week or so.

Can you afford to hire a babysitter during the day to help with the kids - even if for a few hours? Do you have teen nearby (maybe at church - if you don't go to church, call some local ones and see if they can refer someone) who would help out just to serve you? Do you have friends with kids who could take them for a few hours during the day? Ask your church and/or friends/family to make dinners and bring over for a week.

Don't be embarrassed to ask for help. You've probably been there for others in their time of need.

Talk to your husband. Some men get scared when their woman is sick/incapacitated because they are so used to us being strong and in charge. Tell him how you feel...tell him what you need. Don't assume he should know or can figure it out. He is probably in denial (if I don't admit it, it didn't happen). Demand he do more...but it may be that you just need to ask.

Have him read some of the posts about what others are experiencing (probably not this post!). That way he can see that you aren't being a baby but that what you are experiencing is real.

Best wishes.