Grief since surgery

over come with grief and loss since my surgery. I need some help. Anyone out there?

I'm not even sure I know how to post. I'm kind of confused by this site.

Judy

You did just fine with your post.

It can be very normal to experience grief after this surgery. I am sorry you are experiencing it.

Have you tried to find help such as a counsellor who can help you process your feelings. It can take awhile but you can get through it, the important things are to deal with it and watch so that it doesn't turn into depression.

Hi -
Thank you for responding. Yes, I have been to a counselor and I'm afraid it is already full on depression. I have struggled with depression all my life but this is different. It comes in huge waves of saddeness and feelings of despair.
The "waves" makes me wonder if it's hormonal. I had a hysterectomy May 22 2012. They took uterus and one ovary. I'm not on any meds. Sometimes the feelings are so intense I think about ending it all. I don't think I would actually go through with it but I hate being in that mental and emotional space. Any words of wisdom for me?

Have you talked to your doctor about this?? If it is hormonal or even depression they ought be able to help you. It sounds like you are at the point where some medical intervention might be a good idea.

I totally understand the grief associated with this surgery. Even though each sister has different levels of it and it is very personal journey, it seems to hit everyone at some time. The waves of sadness and grief as you put it make me strongly urge you to seek more professional help. There is hope and light at the end of the tunnel and I hope you find the right combination of help for you.

Judi

Most definitely part of this can be hormonal. My surgical menopause was one thing that triggered clinical depression. If it even occasionally crosses your mind about ending it all you need to tell your counsellor / therapist. I was put on effexor. I've been able to reduce my original dosage after 3.5 years but not quite to the point of being able to get off of it entirely. Still have some things to work through.

Hi there,
I had my hyterectomy two years ago this week. I too went through grief and emptiness. You definitely are not alone. Please keep talking to a professional. I felt lost, wondering if I had done the right thing. I will tell you that two years later, yes I did do the right thing. The emptiness is not there anymore. (It took a while though). A turning point came when I was going away to visit family one weekend not too long ago. I took out my suitcase and found some pads in it! I actually got soooo happy. I didn't need those pads anymore. It made me cry, but with happiness, because I remembered the last time I went away, I was in so much pain, I had to take major pain medication to get me throught the weekend. A weekend away with family that all I remember is the pain. I guess what I am saying is that there were still some grief times, but with time and patience with myself, help with a councellor and friends I did get through it. While that was a turning point, I still needed to talk about it and I did. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, because looking back, I don't know how I handled the pain pre surgery. But I did. We are strong, those of us who have had to live through the pain, we are amazing! You have people out here who care, who can identify with what you are going through. We care about you. Keep talking to your councellor. Keep in touch. Sending hugs your way!!!