Scheduled for Dec 4

What would I do without this website ! I cannot imagine. I have read endless threads and think I now have a complete list of questions for the doctor for my preop in late Nov. I am scared, but I think that this is the right decision. I have fibroids, enlarged uterus, prolapse and need a little repair work in there as well. I had a hysteroscopy and D&C in June and my symptoms (basically a period every three weeks and the period lasts a week--so I have two weeks without bleeding--,backaches all month, clotting,etc). The doctor said my uterine lining was very thick so I may have adenomyosis in addition to the fibroids. She plans on doing a vaginal hyst; she thinks that my uterus is still small enough for it not to be a problem (about 10 week size). Even though it is far off still, I cannot think of much else. On top of it, we are moving in three weeks so I have to pack up the house and have a million things to do. Maybe that is good- it will keep my mind off of it a bit.

Anyone have any thoughts on whether I'll be able to cook Christmas dinner if my operation is Dec. 4 (my parents are coming to visit and I have not yet told them of the surgery--and no, my mom is not the "helpful" type so the visit is not necessarily a good thing).

Thanks for being out there. It is so good to know that I can come here to learn, share and ask questions.

Sharon

Dear Sharon,

I didn't have the benefit of this site before my hyst,(I found it 3 weeks post), but thankfully I kept so busy with my family and music work that it kept my mind occupied, so your move may be a blessing in that regard. You have the advantage of support from this site as well, which is NO SMALL THING!

Recently, another sister asked about doing Thanksgiving dinner a couple of weeks after her hyst. The replies were unanimously, "NO!" I don't know where you live, but some great suggestions involved ordering the dinner in advance from the deli dept. of supermarkets or even restaurants. We did this one year, ordered from the "Honey Baked Ham" place. They had side dishes, the WORKS!

Your say your mother is not the "helpful type", and you probably will not have the energy or inclination to take this on. Besides, you'll have all the other concerns that go with having company at your house. Plan ahead so you don't have a major stress-out situation, which is the last thing you'll need! If you take a wait-and-see approach, it might all be upon you before you know it.

No, it may not be as "traditional" this year, but SO WHAT! As others here have said, it is the family being together that makes a holiday, not where the food comes from! I think once you plan for this, you will feel very relieved. If family members object, remind them of WHO is undergoing MAJOR SURGERY only 3 weeks earlier!

Just my 2c worth...

My very best to you...

LInda

I fortunately have a very helpful DH (who also can cook the best turkey and stuffing on earth), so we will have a Christmas dinner regardles of whether I can actually cook it. I agree, I do not want to overdo it, so I will only do what I am up to doing and if I can't handle it, the dinner will be either more limited, or DH will do it. I wish I had the helpful mom that I think everyone should have, but I don't, so I have to deal with that. Hey, I've been dealing with that fact forever, so this situation does not really present anything new in that regard.

This website is what will get me through this -- I just hope I can sit at the computer and look at it soon after I come home from the hospital.

I'll be reading a lot of posts before December 4th !

Thanks again.

Sharon

Wow, Sharon,

I did not realize that your DH could prepare turkey and stuffing...that certainly makes a difference! Your original post was worded so that I thought maybe you were the only cook in the picture. The other sister I referred to did not have a DH that could do it, if I remember correctly.

I'm glad you are preparing to take it easy. You may be surprised how long it takes for your energy to return. If your DH will do it or be of limitless help, then it seems that you don't have much to worry about. I'm also very blessed to have a "cooking" DH. He even makes meals ahead of time on the weekend and freezes them for later in the week.

I'm so glad you can go into your surgery with realistic ideas of what to expect...I didn't! You will be so much better off! Keep reading the posts... I'm sending you my very best wishes...

Linda