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second guessing myself
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06-24-2002, 09:40 AM
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Hysterectomy: July 26th, 2002
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second guessing myself
I posted this on the "decisions" discussion, but copied it here in hopes it would get more exposure. Any help is appreciated.
What a relief to have found this board! I will be grateful for any assistance. My decision is made, but I am struggling to be at peace with it.
I have felt that my life was severely interrupted by my periods for about two years now. I never had an easy time with it--PMS, cramps, heavy bleeding etc. But when I started spotting a week before, bled for a week to a week and a half--I realized I was spending more time with a tampon inside me than not. I tried a low-dose birth control pill--raised blood pressure, gave me headaches. Stopped it abruptly mid-cycle and thought I was going to hemmorage to death! Next thing to try was a progesterone tablet. Helped briefly, then stopped helping. Doubled the dosage--it did nothing.
I asked my doctor about ablation. She did the ultrasound and biopsy and said I couldn't have it done because of a submocosal fibroid. She diagnosed four fibroids and a polyp. Said I had three options: 1. watch and wait 2. hysterectomy 3. see a specialist about another procedure--re-section.
I had been so miserable with long, heavy, painful periods that my first reaction was to just schedule the hsyter and be done with it. But commom sense took over. She asked me to meet with her again in a month.
I did so, but in that month I had a close-to normal period. My first one in years. It was still heavy and long, but it was bearable. I decided during that month to see the specialist which I did last week. He was great, reviewed everything and basically said that the re-section wasn't a good option for me and that he thought the hyserectomy was the way to go. To his credit, he sent me back to my doctor instead of trying to get business from me. That made me trust his opinion even more.
I saw my doctor last week and we scheduled an LAVH for August 30. I have no emotional connection to my uterus and no issues with having this done. EXCEPT.. I have my period now and once again, it is heavy, but bearable. I wonder if I am killing an ant with an atomic bomb here.
Since my periods normalized themselves (at least for two months) there are some changes. They are much more painful. Lots of cramps, pelvic ones, and now I have pains in the tops of my thighs too. Also some backache. I also have many more PMS symptoms (esp moodiness and weepiness) than I have had for a long time. On Saturday I started crying and couldn't stop.
THere is nothing that I would love more than to stop buying superplus tampons in bulk and going through boxes of them in one period. I would love to wear white pants again.
I have had two doctors tell me this is the way to go and I trust and like both of them. My own doctor who would do the surgery is wonderful, but her office is extremely busy and it is hard to get all my questions answered. My gut is telling me to do this and I am already putting in my requests for time off, I rescheduled a vacation, etc. But if I can have "normal" periods until menopause, why not spare myself the surgery?
I know that if I put this off, I'll start to have more problems. At least I think I will. What to do?
I am 48, happily married but with a sporadic sex life because I spend so much time anticipating/having my period. Two kids in college.
Thanks for reading this far!
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06-24-2002 01:15 PM
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06-24-2002, 10:44 AM
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Hysterectomy: May 23rd, 2002
Surgery Type: TAH
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Hi Rfkl
First, I want to welcome you to Hystersisters and give you a . I'm so sorry for what you are going through.
Reading your story sounds so much like what I went through. My last period before my surgery last month was totally normal. But the pain I was having was not. That factor alone was the clincher for me. I could not live out the rest of my life before menopause with that pain!
I had my surgery May 23, a month ago yesterday. I can tell you that I feel better now than I have in months. This was the best decision I could make for me. I won't lie to you and tell you that this surgery was easy, but it was a small and temporary price to pay for a lifetime without the pain and excessive bleeding. (Click on the WWW button at the bottom of my post to read my story.)
Only you and your doctors can decide what is best for you. I encourage you to read all that you can, learn all that you can. You need to be comfortable with your decision.
Feel free to post any questions or concerns you have. We're here for you whenever you need us.
s,
Lisa
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06-25-2002, 10:04 AM
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Hysterectomy: June 18th, 2001
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Welcome
Sometimes we have to make decisions that we really wish someone else would do for us. I felt like that before my surgery and I too found my periods unbearable. I had the easiest period before my surgery, but I knew deep down that I could not go another 10 years until menopause and wonder if I would have a good period or a bad one. This is something you will have to decide on your own of course with your DR's help and from info you get here. Use all of this to come to that decision. It will help your peace of mind. God Bless. keep us informed about you.
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06-26-2002, 05:13 AM
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Hysterectomy: May 29th, 2002
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Hi there
I had the same problems as you do. I can tell you I am so happy I had the hyst. It was a piece of cake compared to what I was dealing with on a bi-monthly basis. I think the more pain you in before surgery, the easier you recover! I say go for it. You will feel so much. I wish you well!
Tammy
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