day 7 Post Op-UHG!

Ohhh...don't know where to start! I am 52, had post menopausal bleeding and a radical hysterectomy last Monday, July 30. My body seems very confused as well as my brain! Surgery went well as he took it all plus 2 tumors vaginaly & I am not having any bleeding. Kidneys were last to wake up so I stayed until 6P Tuesday in the hospital. Gas is a nightmare plus bowel movements are taking a lot of creativity with old fashion methods-warm prune juice but am still bloated and am not going frequently enough. What an oxymoron that he says "rest, sleep" and "walk, move around as much as possible"...kinda hard when you're full of prunes & Miralax to "rest". I have a dog that luckily wants me to walk him so I get out & do it to try & move the gas that is now in my shoulders. I read about so many that feel "just great" but sisters, I am no where near great. My thanks to God that nothing was cancerous and that it's over but I just feel huge & in pain from gas/bloating/slow bowels. Please tell me it's going to get better soon! I am older than some but was in great health. I started back on HRT in the hospital but still easy to upset & *****y. How do I get my husband to understand that I am trying to RECOVER and everything I do is a challenge so PICK UP YOUR DARN LAUNDRY OFF THE FLOOR!!...(see what I mean...)...Love to all.......Andrea Y

You need to sit him down and tell him you need his help around the house. If he would just help you by picking up after himself it would make things alit easier for you. Kill him with kindness. I have noticed that our loved ones do not understand what we are going threw because they are or have not gone threw it themselfs. My DH has told me a few times that I have to tell him what u need because if I don't he has no clue. Have that talk with him ASAP Hun good luck.

Thank you Dawnsey! I know his work days are lomg & stressful but he's able to poop, lift, cook & DOES if I ask but I am so uded to doing it all myself it's hard. You are so sweet to reply! I can't sleep in our bed because it's too high & I think he misses me but getting up so much during the night & trying to get out of that bed didn't work. Thank you again!!!...XXOO Andrea

Thank goodness you don't have the cancer! Recovery is rough, especially the gas and BM issues. Hang in there, it will slowly get better. As for your hubby, explain to him what you NEED and only do what you have to do for yourself for a while. If you can get up to go to the bathroom, grab a drink and microwave some convenience food or grab a quick snack for yourself, consider that good for now.Let him know that everything else he needs to do himself, or it can't be done. If he's a busy guy he may only be able to wash his work clothes and feed himself, so don't stress about everything else.If he leaves his clothes on the floor it isn't the end of the world. DON'T pick them up, but don't nag him about picking them up either. He'll pick them up when he runs out of work clothes and needs to wash a load himself.Our loved ones don't really understand unless we explain it to them. If your crabby about it they will help even less. It is time to learn to let things go.Your only a week into this and I can promise you that in 2 more weeks there will be a lot more things around the house your sick of looking at. You need to get used to ignoring things.If you don't take the time to heal properly you can end up setting yourself back, so just be patient.

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Originally Posted by yarb Ohhh...don't know where to start! I am 52, had post menopausal bleeding and a radical hysterectomy last Monday, July 30. My body seems very confused as well as my brain! Surgery went well as he took it all plus 2 tumors vaginaly & I am not having any bleeding. Kidneys were last to wake up so I stayed until 6P Tuesday in the hospital. Gas is a nightmare plus bowel movements are taking a lot of creativity with old fashion methods-warm prune juice but am still bloated and am not going frequently enough. What an oxymoron that he says "rest, sleep" and "walk, move around as much as possible"...kinda hard when you're full of prunes & Miralax to "rest". I have a dog that luckily wants me to walk him so I get out & do it to try & move the gas that is now in my shoulders. I read about so many that feel "just great" but sisters, I am no where near great. My thanks to God that nothing was cancerous and that it's over but I just feel huge & in pain from gas/bloating/slow bowels. Please tell me it's going to get better soon! I am older than some but was in great health. I started back on HRT in the hospital but still easy to upset & *****y. How do I get my husband to understand that I am trying to RECOVER and everything I do is a challenge so PICK UP YOUR DARN LAUNDRY OFF THE FLOOR!!...(see what I mean...)...Love to all.......Andrea Y

Yarb lol wow i am so glad im not the only one that got fustrated af her husband. The day i was dischared from the hospital, my house was a mess when i got home. I was so mad at my husband, i said to him you could not at least straighten up the house while i was gone. He said i was at the hospital with you, but he did go home to eat and sleep. I don't know maybe im just a grouch rite now lol. Recovery is slow but you will start to feel better each day, best wishes and a good recovery to you

Like Cathy said, now is the time to let things go rather than get mad. I cleaned my house well the 2 days before my surgery, and even though my hubby works from home and I have two 20-something kids at home, not a whole lot of cleaning has been done around here since July 1st. No vacuuming, no floor washing, dusting, and no kitchen or bathroom cleaning with the exception of loading and unloading the dishwasher. Hubby has helped a little with the laundry, and took care of the dishwasher off and on during the first 2 weeks when it got really bad. He also took care of dinners for us for the first week and a half. My son and daughter will do specific tasks if I ask them to, but they are in and out a lot, and basically sleep here only. They have been pretty good at keeping all of their stuff in their rooms. My coping strategy was to stay in my bedroom so I didn't see any mess in the rest of the house. After about 2 weeks I started doing light cleaning in the kitchen, but still no floors, no lifting, pushing, or far reaching. If something needed to be put into a low or high cupboard, it got to stay on the counter until someone else put it away (or not). Today I finally swept the kitchen floor because I couldn't stand it. But I'm also 5 weeks out from surgery. I'm going to hold off on the vacuuming and mopping though until my post op appt. Yeah the house has gotten dusty and a little scrungy, but that's life! I obviously care more about those things than the rest of my family, and my first priority has been healing. The mess has waited for me to be ready to tackle it, and there are definitely worse things than a scrungy house-like pulling stitches or prolapsing something! Rest on! Let everything else go for a while. It will be OK, or someone else will tend to it if it gets bad enough!