home from castle

Got home yesterday late afternnoon. Still in some belly pain, staples hurt and burn. But doing okay..better than being in the hospital.

I am really disgusted with my DH. I had tried to educate him about the recovery beforehand, but evidently it didn't sink in. Last night (less than hours home from the hospital) I asked him to help me off the chair and to the restroom. He not very gallantly walked over and handed me one hand, all the while not taking his eyes off the tv. I asked him to HELP me to get to a standing position and then asked for him to let me hold his arm down the hall. He walked me partway to the bathroom and said "The best way for you to get back to normal is to start doing things for your self." then turned and walked away, leaving me there to get on/off the toilet alone. Well...I don't have to tell any of you how painful that was, and how it stretched my guts....

Then later, I swallowed a drink of tea the wrong way and tried not to cough. I coughed once and that was it..I was in tears. I think THEN he finally got a small clue as to how I am feeling. He is an insensative jerk and I am not speaking to him right now.

Thank you all for listening to me and for being here for me. Without you, and my Mom, I would be alone.

I still am too achy to sit here long so I will close for now. Hope you all have a great day. I will check back in as I feel better. 's to y'all!

Welcome home princess. Hope you are feeling better soon. Take it easy and heal. With the DHs, I chalk it up to us being so strong and independent most of time that they are lost, can't begin to comprehend that we are (the stronger sex, just kidding)are regular people too, not superwomen. Make sure you let him know how you are feeling. Don't let him walk away from you, cry, scream, hell throw a tantrum if you need to. Ask him how he would like to have his insides cut through and then go and mow the lawn. Remind him some day the shoe might be on the other foot and that we have really good memories when it comes to things like this. Take care hon. You have lots of sisters here for you and you are lucky to have your mom too, what a special gift that is.

Look2Heaven...I really feel for you. One of my biggest fears was that I would swallow something down the wrong way and end up coughing. I seemed to do it a lot pre-op and just dreaded it would happen to me. It didn't, but I did have some coughing on Day 2 after that tube had been down my throat during surgery. It hurt so much.

Just focus on keeping yourself positive during your recovery, even if others around you are not encouraging it. Just blank any negativity out....and do what you need to do to make sure you heal properly.

i just wanted to say welcome home!!!!please try to take it easy,and rest,and drink alot of fluids.i know hubbys and boyfriends can be so insensitive,but,i think that they dont fully grasp the whole concept of the surgery we had done...they are use to seeing us just bounce right back,continue working while sick and such,and i bet hes thinking the same in this situation..maybe you could direct him to the misterhyster part on here..maybe that will open his eyes...im sorry your having to deal with this,please try to hang in there....lots of hugs...sonie

I'm sorry you are feeling alone right now. Would your hubby be receptive to sitting down while you explain what you need from him? Sometimes our guys are insensitive, not because they don't care, but because they feel helpless to take away your pain and can't fix you. And sometimes they are just insensitive. I don't know which it is for your DH. Try to explain to him, and tell him you need him, and his support and that you appreciate his willingness to give you his help and support...

Good luck. Hugs. T

Poor thing! I can only imagine how you must have felt. I am sorry.