TAH Think DH is fed up. 3rd week post hysterectomy

I do understand how you are feeling. I am a self doer and it is very hard for me to have anyone do things for me.

But after the surgery I thought...I only have on chance to heal properly without complications so I am going to have to rely on others to do things for me.

My husband has been amazing and I am so blessed to have him help me through all of this.

When I start to feel bad about him doing so much extra work...I stop and think...I would do the same for him if he has just had major surgery.

Best of luck to you in your recovery.

I found myself in the garage today looking for Christmas cards for my 9yr old. It wasn't until I leant forward to pick up a box and my middle area screamed that I stopped myself. My head needs to chill and stop expecting miracles. Maybe it's the high oestrogen that I'm on? Amazing how many times I'm saying thank you to members of my household family when they have done something that I would just automatically do and move on. Who says "thank you" for someone emptying the washer? I must look out for theses praises when I'm fixed up!

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Originally Posted by pitabella3 When I start to feel bad about him doing so much extra work...I stop and think...I would do the same for him if he has just had major surgery.

Exactly. THIS is what "in sickness and in health" means.

I totally understand!! I find myself saying thank you to my husband for picking up things I drop on floor!! I feel so helpless. My dr told me about 2 weeks recovery after robotic hysterectomy and I Will probably b able to go back to work. I have a cleaning business and clean 3 houses or offices 5 days a week!!

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Originally Posted by snowball1217 I totally understand!! I find myself saying thank you to my husband for picking up things I drop on floor!! I feel so helpless. My dr told me about 2 weeks recovery after robotic hysterectomy and I Will probably b able to go back to work. I have a cleaning business and clean 3 houses or offices 5 days a week!!

2 weeks!!! That's very quick isn't it- although I don't know the ins and outs of the robotic surgery. Don't go back unless you feel ready. How's your pain?

Yes he told me 2 weeks!! I still have pain but it is easing up. Still can't lift anything heavier than a gallon of milk. I'm still getting a lot of gas but drinking a glass of prune juice keeps me regular. Its the only thing that finally helped. How is your pain??

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Originally Posted by snowball1217 Yes he told me 2 weeks!! I still have pain but it is easing up. Still can't lift anything heavier than a gallon of milk. I'm still getting a lot of gas but drinking a glass of prune juice keeps me regular. Its the only thing that finally helped. How is your pain??

My gyno insisted that the robotic surgery would lead to a much faster recovery but he still gave me a six week medical certificate. I'm doing really well but there is no way I could go back to work right now. It seems recovering from a hysterectomy is a very up and down experience. One minute I am dressed and having coffee with friends next thing I'm back in bed feeling tired and sore. I have no idea how anyone can go back to a physically demanding job after only a few weeks post op.

I had my surgery Nov. 26 and I totally agree about the up and down. One minute I'm up feeling ok and then I need to sit down asap. I'm wondering if I will b ready for work 6 weeks postop!

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Originally Posted by Sillydog1 Boy can I relate to all of this! I am "Supermom" too and refer to myself as "the glue that holds this family together." Things are not getting done as they were promised (more of an issue with my teenaged daughter than my husband) and I hate not being able to do things. I am also someone who just gets things done. We put up our tree and other decorations today and it involved moving furniture and vacuuming as well. I hated that I was just going around pointing out what needed to be done next (like taking the decoration boxes back to the basement instead of leaving them in the middle of the living room) while everyone groaned, whined and rolled their eyes! Normally, I would have just taken care of it but I feel like I am constantly micro managing while they complain and nothing is getting done! I can't wait to be my old capable self!! You are not alone -none of you believe me! Stay strong ladies!!

I completely understand!! I have 3 teens that are supposed to help along with my DH. I feel guilty asking my DH to do anything because he works long hours. That leaves me with 3 teens that I need to depend on. Yelling to answer questions is draining, I feel the pull in my abdomen. It was way worse the first couple weeks after surgery. Now it's been 4 weeks and I can finally do some things again. I am a stay at home Mom. My whole job is to take care of the family. I have felt useless and depressed. Now I'm slowly starting to feel better and you will too. Just getting out for a ride in the car is therapeutic. I've now driven a few times too. I never realized that driving engages abdominal muscles too. So if you have a binder wear it in the car to drive. I'd say if you bought the set of 2 keeping one in the car might come in handy when you start to get sore. It has got easier everyday.

It was six weeks before I got much energy and I'm still careful how it lift and carry. My surgery was Oct 6th. Take the help now, and let your family keep some of the chores later. Watch out for fostering "learned helplessness." Teens can do and should do quite a bit. It's on the job training so that when they move out, they can cook and clean and care for themselves.

We'll, that sound preachy. I'm liking letting my DH do more so maybe I'm justifying...
Hugs to you.