a few days late

well its gettin down to the nitty gritty and my nerves are living there own life i cant seem to get a hold on them i will be making my list of stuff to do and get yet
the feelings i have now r not why me but just fear of the op it self have been in so much pain lately that i will be glad when it is over pain is just taking over my life at this point if this keeps up i will reach up there and get it my self and punch it so it knows how i feel and i seem to be sleepy all the time i am tryin to pull my self together my dh is gettin on my nerves also he seems to think this is no big deal that him tellin me will make it alright it doesnt i know he loves me and he is tryin but he looks sad when i cant explain the things i am feelin i dont want him to worry yet i want him to know how i feel he is always tryin to help what can i do to make him feel like he is helping me instead of gettin on my nerves thank u all so much i am doin it again seems this is the only place i can vent and i am not all by myself on the feelings and thoughts that r goin on in my head thank u i will stop now
much luv
samantha
8days left

Oh sweetie! I felt a lot like you before my surgery last week. I was so scared of surgery itself. Now? I am recovering, and having some pain, but the overwhelming relief of being past the "worst part" is wonderful. Hang tight. I too lived with pain for way too long. You will be so glad you did this.

Hi.So sorry you are getting so stressed.I don't know what to say to my husband either.I feel the same way.I don't even have my surgery til april 12th.Hang in there.I am sure you will feel better soon.Good luck and we are thinking about you.

Oh Samantha! First of all here's a . Isn't this a wonderful place to vent? Its perfectly normal to be nervous-I've had 4 surgeries and was very nervous, even tho I knew what to expect. As for DH, he probably doesn't think that its no big deal, he likely wants to be strong for you and thats the only way he knows how. He's a man and is totally wired differently from us. He also has little idea of what you are going thru as he has no uterus. He only sees what you let him see. The best way to deal with him, IMHO, is to give him little jobs to do for you, and thank him for doing it even if its not done perfectly. Men need to do something concrete, they don't deal with emotions/feelings well. They need to fix, when all we need is to vent. They just don't get that. Have him help you do groceries, or help you cook your favourite meal so he'll know how to do it for you after your surgery. Just also let him know that you don't want it they day you come home! Just a few little suggestions. I hope they help.