ever happen?

Oh Hootie roo!

Im praying for a speedy recovery for you and let me tell you honey....this 49 yr old GreatPlains farm gal who is normally a very patient person would like to give MR a good, old fashioned "attitude check"!! We women are more than a vessel!!

Dear hoo,
You are right to focus on yourself and not him. However I would like to add to all of the wonderful posts that you may need to talk to a counselor of some type about the emotional trauma that you have gone through. Besides just the physical healing from the surgery and the forced sex (rape) you need to heal emotionally as well. Just remember that all of you sisters are here for you when you need to talk!

From what I have read I believe you were absolutely right is telling your husband to leave. Your husband is supposed to be your protector. Oh I am so infurriated! If he can do this to his wife whom God has charged him to protect, what else is he capable of? I hope you will stand strong and I would suggest getting some counseling for yourself to deal with what he has done to you. Please take care of yourself and get a family member or close friend to keep an eye on you and confide in.
's & "s

Oh Sweetie,
I am so sorry you are having to go through this on top of having to heal all over again. I hope and pray you have someone to help you during this recovery. I do agree with the other sisters on speaking with someone regarding the situation with your husband. This kind of mental trauma can slow your physical healing down. Bless YOUR Heart! I wish I could just reach out and give you a big hug, and tell you that it will be alright. I will be praying for you honey.
We are hear for you to talk to day or night. Please keep us informed on how you are doing. Take care of yourself and please get some help!
Hugs!

Oh, I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this. You have been given some great advice, I think it would help you alot to find someone who can help you work thru this. The surgery is hard emotionally without the added pressures. You are in my . I a sending lots of 's, Carol

I'm sorry too that it has come to this for you at a time when you are already vulnerable. I support the advice to seek some form of counseling for yourself. I don't know who has supported you in the early post-op days (family nearby?) but if you have someone who you can confide in who can support you within your home life through this, it may be worth considering.

It is very important you put yourself first in this instance. I do hope your husband respects your request and leaves peacefully.

Big to you - please keep us posted on how you are getting on

I am so sorry that you are having to experience all of this pain, both emotional and physical. We are all here to listen whenever you need to talk. In a way I feel even more of a connection with you because I live in the same city as you. Because of the field I work I am in, I know about the resources in our area that can help you through this. Please feel free to email me or send a private message.

So sorry you are going through this right now. I hope and pray things get much better for you. My DH and I had sex one day early...I was a little tender, but not bad...we took it slow. I think,in my opinion, the reason you are tender and tore, was because he forced it upon you, otherwise you would probably be ok. Best wishes and hugs to you.

Hootie, I hope you consider taking your medical records and at LEAST file a report! Husband or not, force is force and it's against the law. In my experience, the man who forced me to 1 time (my then boyfriend), continued to force me for months after. I didn't know then that what he was doing was wrong. I know this now, and he's facing the consequences. I'm not saying to press charges, but please at least file a complaint, with copies of your medical records, so IF this ever happens again you already have a history documented. I wish I had done that.

Also, get yourself into some counseling to deal with what happened. I have a feeling this action didn't just come out of the blue...

Hang in there sweetie

I just want to add my support for you, hootie. We are always here for you and want for you to heal and be well in all areas of your life!

isewquilts