Sleepness nights, cranky and indecision

Sleepness nights and I am not even menopausal. Cranky and I don't even have my period at tje moment.

I am finally comfortable with my decsion to have a hyst. But I have now decided I don't want to have my ovaries removed. So what if I am 50? So what if I would be going through menopause in another couple of years or sooner? Why take something that appears to still be healthy. Yes, I know my ovaries might shut down anyway.

I already signed the papers agreeing to the removal of my ovaries and I thought that was the best thing. But the more I read and the more I think - I just don't think I am comfortable with that. Will Dr. think I am nuts if I call and tell him I have changed my mind on the BSO? I do feel a little nuts.

I also feel like I just don't care anymore. I want to make the right decision - but who knows? No one can really say what the future holds - take or leave them? I don't even want to think about it anymore. I think I will just go get a good novel and go to bed.
Sometimes this trying to decide just gets to be too much.

Am I the only one who keeps going back and forth like this?

No, you are not the only one, I promise. I am 35 and on 12/3, I am having a TVH/BSO. Today, I finally decided that I have to be strong, make a decision, stick with it and go from there. I feel such a relief. I hope I can continue to stay in this mind frame for just a little longer. We will see Family for Thanksgiving, do a lot of Christmas shopping and them BOOM - surgery time. Good luck to you.

Shelly67

If you're no longer comfortable with the BSO, let your doctor know. I'm sure your doctor won't think you're nuts, just normal.

It's your body, and if you want to keep your healthy ovaries, that's your right.

Hope you can start getting some !

s, Sandy! So glad you found this site!

I know how you feel - I went through the same thing with whether or not I should keep my cervix. I finally decided to have it removed during the hyst. when my doctor told me there was a possibility of having "mini-periods."

If you don't feel comfortable having your ovaries removed, then please don't! Personally, I am very happy to have one healthy, working ovary and that it did not "shut down" after surgery. During my pre-op appointment, I asked my doctor about the possibility of the ovary "shutting down" after surgery and he said that happens in a small amount of cases. I don't know what your doctor would say.

It's very important to do what feels right to you. You most certainly can call your doctor and tell him that you've changed your mind about removing your ovaries. My doctor and his staff told me I could even call and cancel the whole surgery if I wasn't comfortable about it, even though they knew I really needed it.

I hope all goes very well for you and all the other ladies in waiting.

~Sue

Hi Sandy--

I can relate to how you feel! I went back and forth on whether or not to have my ovaries removed. (age 49). I shared my concerns with my doctor and he told me that if I decided I wanted to keep them, I could let him know right up until they took me into surgery. I decided to have them removed---and as it turns out it was a good decision, as there were undiagnosed cysts on both of them.

You have every right to keep your healthy ovaries! Let your doctor know---I'm sure he won't think you are nuts---as many women go through this indecision/decision making process.

s to you!

Happy Thanksgiving to everyone. I finally called my Dr. yesteday and told him I am not comfortable with a BSO. He said no problem - we can change the forms at the hospital prior to surgery. Of course, I did tell him if they look bad then take them out.

Boy, do I feel better. Even sleeping better. I think this is a hard decision for many women - and I could not justify taking a healthy body part just to prevent a possible problem later. In that case, I figure then they might as well take my gall bladder, appendix, etc. I don't know what the future holds - but have faith that I will be able to deal with whatever comes. And if my ovaries are diseased, I will accept that and the fact they had to go.

Of course, I have up to Monday, Dec. 2 to change my mind again. Ha, I am not a person who keeps going back and forth - and doubt if I will change my mind - but then - you never can tell....

I REALLY know how you feel. I am dreading and awaiting monday 12/2.I have considered calling tomorrow and cancelling the whole thing. Why is this so hard! Well, I know why it is , because this effects my WHOLE life but I sure wish it were an easy thing like the cesarean I had to have.I did not choose that.

Everybody I know makes it sound so easy! It will be fine and you will feel better. I would feel better if it were one of them having a hysterectomy and I were the one drinking a soda in the waiting room watching T.V! That would be easy.

I will stop being a chicken Monday am I suppose. I am keeping my ovaries. I debated that for weeks and feel better now that I have made a solid choice. I am 34 and figure I will take all the juice I can get from them! If they poop out then I will deal with it when it happens.

I am hanging on a little motto my daughter gave me, she said "mom you will be period free by 2003"! Guess there is a silver lining on this cloud after all! Good-luck with your surgery and I pray that you will have a quick and exceptional recovery.

The closer it gets to the time of surgery the more questions, doubts and fears I have. I've been cranky and irratable for so long because of hormones fluctuating and pelvic pain I think I am looking forward to Mondays surgery! (That was five minutes ago--It's likely to change in another five!!)

I have made the decision to take the ovaries, after much well-intended advice from friends, family and co-workers. When you are having surgery everyone is concerned and want you to have the best outcome possible. I think the best advice is to trust your doctor. Everyone is different and what is right for one is not for the other.

In my case, my dr advised to take them. I'm 41, having a LAVH for fibroids. He told me that the ovaries didn't have many years of usefulness left, if I were 10 years younger he would recommend keeping them if they were healthy. I think I might be in early menopause anyway, I've been having hot flashes at night and heavan knows my hormones have been a devil! With estrogen replacement, As far as I can tell, the only significant risk is a rise in breast cancer, which is small. Benefits include protection from cardiovascular disease, alzheimers and osteoporosis.

Im not looking forward to being chained to a patch, but I guess it's not "that" bad.

Good luck to all of us with surgery dates of 12/02