Hi I am new

Hello everyone

I have been looking on this site for a little while and have jsut taken up the courage to have my say.

I am a new 40 yr old LIW. I will be having a TAH at some point, I suppose that is what has been bothering me really is that I have no date and feel like I am hanging in limbo. I have been crying all over the place and just feel like a wreck. Is this normal?

I have had PID since I was 21. I have had endo for at least 15 years. Cysts on my ovaries. I have been on loads and loads of tablets, which did not work for me and generally fed up with the pains, during my period, when I am not having a period and backache. Need I say anymore? Oh yes the lack of energy due to the fact that I have a very large fibroid. My dr says that it is the sixe of a 12 week fetus! I am married, but he only understands so much, and it is not the same as talking with ladies, there are some girls at work that have had TAH but you can not talk about it freely like on email.

I am scared and anxious a lot of the time. I am asking loads of questions - do I keep my ovaries, cervix? How much pain am I going to be in? Is my husband going to cope with me not being able to do so much? Am I going to cope watching him not coping? Is my tummy going to be flatter than before and am I really going to feel loads better? Sorry but these are just some of the questions that are running around my head.

I would be happy to hear from anyone who has any comments.

Lots of love

LIW

Lurine

I can understand how you feel, I was also crying all over the place and finally they gave me a date, then I was ok and looking forward to it until the pre op visit when they decided to postpone my surgery due to a chest infection, then it was back to the crying...but now I have a new op. date on the 17th September and believe it or not I am so looking forward to it, well not the actual surgery but not having to do anything for 6 weeks, not being so tired and bloated all the time. I've even made plans to join the gym and start my walking again which has given me things to look forward to instead of sitting around thinking of the bad things that might happen.......

Hi Lurine!

Welcome to Hystersisters! We're so glad you're here!

Undoubtedly you have already found many different areas / forums here where you can read all about others' experiences.

I can understand what you must be going through in anticipation. Perhaps that will settle as soon as you have a date for your castle journey.

It's great to have you join us; please keep us posted on how things progress for you.

s,

i just wanted to say i know how you feel. i am also 40 and just had a tah/bso on 8/20. it was originally scheduled for 9/17 but the doctor got a cancellation and i grabbed it. i will tell you that the waiting is one of the hardest parts. you haven't even decided if you want the surgery yet and that makes it even worse. my doctor wanted me to have this surgery for 2 years and i just wasn't ready. i had a terrible episode in the beginning of july that pushed me over the edge. i knew i was finally ready. you'll know when you are ready and to try and do this when you still aren't sure is a mistake in my opinion. i'll be honest with you and say that there are days i want to call the doctor and tell her to give me all my parts back and let's rethink this. i also know in time i will feel better and i hope that this will be the answer to all my problems. this is a big step and the recovery is not pleasant-at least not for me. in time i know i will be grateful i did this though. take your time thinking it over and one day you'll know when you are ready.

good luck
kathy

Hi! Welcome to Hystersisters!!! You will LOVE this site. Everyone is sooo helpful and you can ask anything or vent whenever you need to!!!

I think everyone is scared when faced with this decision. I know I sure was. I have been dealing with endo, cysts, heavy, long periods, abnormal cervical cells, etc. for years. I finally got sick of trying new things that never worked. I wasn't able to have children due to endo (did adopt though!!) so that wasn't an issue for me. So my last visit to my Dr. we talked about it and he agreed that it was time to do the surgery. However, I second guessed myself up until the end. I was scared of complications and feared waking up in worse shape than when I went in. Anything is possible and people do have bad experiences but I think for the most part, people do very well with the surgery and after recovery, feel much better.

As far as your husband!!! I worried about that too! Our kids are 6 & 7 and my hubby isn't as "tidy" as me! He has been great though!!!!! He had a hernia surgery a couple months ago and I think that helped him understand what I am going through. Just tell him that for a while, you CAN'T do things, period!!! Then close your eyes to the mess!!!

I am now 10 days post-op and feel GREAT!!!!! I do get tired and have occasional twinges but haven't taken anything for pain for 4 days and before that it was just ibuprofen. I have to catch myself because I feel like I can do things now but still need to watch it.

As far as the ovaries and cervix, my Dr. knew the left one had to come out (from a previous lap) and suggested that I keep the right one if it was possible. That is what he did, it was fine and I rather have one than take hormones if possible. With me, I had had some abnormal paps, pre-cancerous, and I wanted it gone!!

Just talk to your Dr. and ask all the ?'s you need to in order to feel comfortable with your decision. Only YOU can make it!!

Good luck!!

Christy