Just plain scared

You have all heard it before it looks like, so I will keep this short and sweet. Yes scared to death, I feel I am too young at times, but realize that my quality of life is at stake. Being blessed isn't an issue for me anymore, but living pain free is. I have been reading so much information I don't even know what to think anymore. I have a pre-surgical consult on the 8th of Jan and while I don't question my decision, with all the information that I have found I am just plain scared. The surgury itself doesn't bother me so much as what will happen the first few days afterwards. If it is anything like my c-section than I should be ok...however then we get into the whole hormone thing and I am totally lost. I have opted (with the advice of my dr) that everything will be coming out. With severe endo, cysts and a strong family his of cancer this is the best thing coming. I don't even know where to start.....Probably just the basics from hours post surgury to the first week. I am hoping to get up and moving again in a few weeks since I still am pretty physcially active dispite my ailments....Can't let this keep me down and out forever.....

Just plain scared

Lilorca2, I am right there with you. I finally made the decision with my doctor the other day to get the hysterectomy. I am extremely happy, as I have lost so much of my life to "female problems" and profound anemia as a result...but on the other hand, I am scared that I will make the wrong decisions (remove ovaries or not, etc) and regret them later on. I am young too, and just worried about the future. I have only posted a couple times here, but I find that the ladies on this board are EXTREMELY understanding and supportive, and you can be sure that women here have dealt with the same problem(s) at least to a certain degree. I am scared too, you are definitely not alone. I wish you the best, and keep posting. If there is a question or a concern, post a message and I bet you will get responses from someone here who has lived through what you are going through.

Christine

Yeah, being scared is totally normal, as you can see from the posts right near yours. What I found regarding the first few hours and days is that I just took it one moment at a time. Somehow when you're in it you aren't scared. It's the anticipation that is scary. If you're anything like I was you will just deal with the situation as it is. You may be in a lot of pain but you most likely will not be. Nurses and doctors don't like people to be in pain so they do their best to make sure you experience as little pain as possible. Generally speaking they do a pretty good job. There is no way of predicting for sure, but there's no reason to think that your path will be anything but average, and if that's the case you will be so fine you will kick yourself for spending so much energy worrying about it.

The hormone therapy may be a trial and error thing. What works for one person doesn't necessarily work for another. Your body is unique. But there are lots of choices and there's bound to be one that is right for you.

Joselle

Good Morning!

I can understand your fear. I cancelled my surgery because I was so afraid. Two months later I finally had it done. I am really glad I did. Things went so much better than I ever imagined. I have had 2 C-sections and this was much less painful for me post-op. My incision was vertical and I am a large woman. I was pleasantly surprised when I got up the first time that the pain was minimal and the only pain med I took was 600mg ibuprofen. I have fibromyalgia, arthritis and several other health issues that did not seem to be negatively affected by the surgery. I have been more emotional (more crying) but know that is to be expected. I am 6 weeks post-op and doing great!!!

Guess what I am trying to say is that there is alot of info out there and it does tend to overwhelm and frighten us. Only you can decide what is best for you. We are all different and respond differently to the things that we have to face. Hang in there!
You are in my thoughts and prayers

Joanna

Hi to am young and I have had problems with endo, cysts, fibroids, bleeding for a long time. I felt like i was all alone but now i realize there are many of us that have the same problems. I had a complete hysterectomy 12 days ago and i felt just as you do. I had no idea what it was going to be like but now i know it was for the best. Please don't be scared about it that will just make you more uncomfortable. Right now I am not feeling that great about it but i know as my body heals it will be worth it in the long run. Just be positive and know that you are not alone and keep us posted.

I also was scared about having it doe. I had never thru any type of major surgery. I had a TAH/BSO and the pain afterwards was very handelable(is that even a word?). I was just taking darvocets and they worked great.

Now 9 mths later I feel so good. I didn't realize how bad I was feeling prior until I was well into recovery. I did have a few post op glitches, but nothing major. Just dealt with them as they came up.

Gook Luck-- it will be worth it in the end and you will wonder why you were so scared.

Hi lilorca2,

It's normal to be scared. I was the same way the weekend before. I will be 4 weeks post op on Monday. And I have no regrets and feel good. I as well had a c section and I think I was more prepared knowing what to expect. I had TAH and kept my ovaries. I'm still being careful as far as lifting, etc. But I'm doing like stuff some laundry, after somebody carries it for me and some light cooking, but that's about it. You will be fine, waiting truley is the hardest part. And remember to rest, drink plenty of fluids, and to walk even if it's just around your house it all helps.
Take care and God bless
Mary

Hi Barinet1
Well, I was reading your post and saw that you are from Central Florida? So am I. Well, I know about the being scared part. I will be 4 weeks post on Monday. I have a TAH keeping the ovaries. My Doctor said they were fine so he said to leave them. And so far I have had no pains. Waiting is the hardest, but you will be so glad when it's all over. I remember waking up in the recovery room thinking I was still waiting to have surgery. Until I touched my stomach and felt it bandage up. It really wasn't that bad. I'm actually feeling good now. I will be going back to work on January 20 th. So best of luck to you. And if I can help you in anyway please let me know.
God Bless you
Mary