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Sisters I Need Ur Help
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07-05-2006, 12:58 PM
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Posts: 7
Hysterectomy: June 24th, 2006
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Sisters I Need Ur Help
I am a 31 yr old married woman with a son of 7 yrs. I had recently gone for a checkup with the gynecologist since I was suffering from irregular periods. The doctor did an internal and informed me that I had a dermatoid mass next to my right ovary. This was confirmed in an ultrasound and a C T scan. The Doc advised me that the only option was surgery and it cannot be reduced by medication. He said he will remove the ovary only if the mass is meshed with the ovary. He assured me that with a single ovary also I will be able to lead a normal healthy life and even conceive if I so desire later in life.
I agreed to the surgery and the same was done on 24 jun. For the surgery I was given GA. During the course of the operation the doc realized that my left ovary was also affected and there was dermatoid growth in the form of hair and surrounded by fat tissues. Since I was under GA he spoke to my husband and told him that the best alternative was to remove the other ovary also along with the uterus to avoid future complications like cancer. My husband gave his consent and me who went into operation thinking only one ovary MIGHT be removed came to my senses with both my ovaries removed and also the uterus. In medical jargon I had bilateral ovarian teratomas and I underwent TAH + BSO.
I would not have agreed to the surgery if I knew they would remove both my ovaries. Now that it has happened I don’t know how to respond. I’m confused about what the future will hold for me…Will I be able to lead a normal life ? The doc has advised to start HRT and this would continue for 5-6 yrs. What after that? Read about the side effects – how bad are they ? Can I lead a fulfilling normal sex life after now ?
I request my sisters who have undergone a similar operation at around my age to help me out of this confusion. I want to lead a happy normal life. Is it possible now ? Help me about what I should eat how to exercise and any other thing I should know or take care of. Please respond as quickly as you can.
Vidu
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07-05-2006, 02:42 PM
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Posts: 532
Hysterectomy: May 22nd, 2006
Surgery Type: TAH
Ovaries: Removed both
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i am 37 ,i have had everything out..i feel fine,i think because you were not ready yet to have it all removed it is harder ,you feel like you had no choice,but your dh was only trying to do what was right for you,he was probably afarid to see you suffer And have to under go surgery a second time in the future,,,you can lead a happy life you have a son who loves you ,who you can be there for.. in 6 weeks you can exercise and start getting back to normal..not all women suffer heat flashes or hormon changes..i feel better then i did 3 months ago...try to be positive ,and remember your family loves you...
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07-05-2006, 03:07 PM
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HysterSister
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Posts: 397
Hysterectomy: May 8th, 2006
Surgery Type: TLH
Ovaries: Removed both
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Sisters I Need Ur Help
Hiya Vidu. I'm 35 and everything has been taken out. I have also been told to take HRT for a fair number of years (I'm a high risk for osteoporosis (sp) ). I'm currently taking oestrogen only in tablet form and I'm doing OK so far. As for sex, dh and I have only managed outercourse once so far, and I have to say that it was My libido is better than it has for years. As far as post-HRT is concerned, right now I'll cross that bridge when I come to it. You will get a normal life at some point! Just take it slow, listen to your body and be good to yourself. Hang in there . It must have been a shock for you when you came round, but even if an ovary is left, there is never 100% guarantee that it will be 'up to speed'. I hope this helps a little. Take care and hope you're feeling better soon.
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07-05-2006, 03:23 PM
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HysterSister
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Posts: 126
Hysterectomy: June 9th, 2006
Surgery Type: TAH
Ovaries: Removed both
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Sisters I Need Ur Help
Vidu,
I am 36 and had everything out. I went into surgery knowing I was losing my right ovary. I came out and had no ovaries. Once inside my Dr found lots of disease. In fact, my left ovary was worse than my right one. I too found out everything after surgery was over. I agree with sisterof3, it's that you didn't have time to prepare yourself for the loss. It is a loss so give yourself time to mourn. However, you also need to try to think positive. Your doc found your condition before it turned into cancer. I'm guessing your husband heard cancer and thought, I'd rather have her alive and with us, with no uterus, than possibly suffering from cancer. What a hard position to be in. Wow. Nonetheless, despite post-op discomfort, I feel so much better than I did before surgery. It's so nice not to be sick any more. I will lead a totally normal life. I know this because my mom, aunt, and cousin have had hysts too. I will take my HRT starting next week. My Dr said it will help my bones, any hot flashes (I've had only 6), and it will keep me sexy. I also have a 7yr. old son, who is my joy on earth. He says and does the funniest things every day. I cherish him. I hope this encourages you. Feel free to send a private e-mail any time. I am on the boards a lot while I am resting. All the best to you!
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07-10-2006, 12:49 PM
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Posts: 7
Hysterectomy: June 24th, 2006
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sisters i need ur help
thanx for ur support.They have eased me a bit.All I think at times is why me.Am I really that bad.I feel sorry for my dh.All I keep thinking is will I really bloat up once I am on HRT ? I am now a fit 50 kg . I really can't imagine me with all that weight. Can't exercise stop it ? All the posts on the subject say that people only gain weight...nothing much on success stories on weight control.well if I really have to go on HRT for 5 to 6 yrs to help ease my body to comfort levels what after that?
Days are funny with me ...I start with hope and end up with despair. I know I am becoming a pain for my dh but I guess he is in this with me.
this is for all of u who were kind enough to help me. just keep in touch ...I guess I need all the comfortin u all can give me.
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07-10-2006, 02:05 PM
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HysterSister
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Posts: 397
Hysterectomy: May 8th, 2006
Surgery Type: TLH
Ovaries: Removed both
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Vidu I've been on the HRT for over 3 years due to chemical menopause and now weigh less than I have for years I joined a slimming club which helped, but it was as easy/hard as it ever was to lose weight. As long as you keep to a healthy diet and exercise you should be OK. If you're not, go to your dr and explore the alternative HRTs. I'm still overweight (have been for years) but I'm about 32 pounds lighter than I was and I fully intend to keep going. Take care. You can do this.
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07-10-2006, 02:15 PM
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Posts: 78
Hysterectomy: May 30th, 2006
Surgery Type: TVH
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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you'll be fine. Just remember that it's your health. You have one child.. I have never had children. I have two wonderful stepsons, they are MINE!!!! I've had them since they have been 2 and 4. i thank god for them and an glad he sent me wonderful husband. I always wanted to know what if felt like to be pregnant. But I'm happy I'm healthy and can enjoy my two sons. their biological mom hasn't been around much and they tell everyone I'm their mom. That makes me feel so proud. Good luck and take care
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07-10-2006, 02:30 PM
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Posts: 261
Hysterectomy: June 13th, 2006
Surgery Type: TAH
Ovaries: Removed both
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I am so sorry you weren't given time to mentally prepare ahead of surgery. Sounds like your dh and doc did what was in your best interest medically but I can understand your feelings. I had a TAH/BSO done and I'm 38 years young. I have done an incredible amount of research on HRT and have to say despite all the scarey stories I am at peace with taking premarin. I have lost weight since my surgery and HRT because I think in large part I've gained a greater respect for my body and everything it has gone through but also because I want to live a healthy life. I don't believe HRT equals weight gain. A healthy diet and exercise should certainly help keep it in check. Just be weary of the "doom and gloom" types out there. We all play a critical role in our health and working with your doc you will be OK. We are all here for you so know you are not alone. Also check out the message board for articles on hormones. Also I did a google alert that alerts me whenever an article comes out on HRT especially in relation to endometriosis (that is one of my fears...that it'll grow back). Hugs to you through this period of transition.
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07-10-2006, 06:09 PM
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HysterSister
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Posts: 226
Hysterectomy:
Surgery Type: LAVH
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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Sisters I Need Ur Help
First of all I want to tell you I'm sorry you lost your ovaries, especially at such a young age.
Prior to surgery my DH, Doctor and I had a conversion about my ovaries. It was understood that I want to keep my ovaries unless there is an extreme reason to take them.
That was my first questions when was waking in recovery... Do I still have my ovaries? I am one of the lucky ones. However I am 44 YO and have been in peri-menopause for a couple years. So I don't know how long my ovaries are going to be effective.
Good luck to you.
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07-13-2006, 04:06 AM
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Posts: 7
Hysterectomy: June 24th, 2006
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thanx for the support
Sisters, thanx for the support.only you can understand what i am going thru. well one thing in this makes a lot of sense...suffering,compassion and bonding is universal. what else can explain fact that me living in INDIA go searching for solace and I get to weep on the shoulders of a sister in UK and the others in the US .
All this only firms up belief in universality of . I thank one and all who have helped me so far...and believe me they have.I also take this opportunity to other fellow sisters in my state to help me with all possible tips I need for my future.So hugs again and god bless you all. looking for the pot of gold at the end of the
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