Should I or shouldn't I

ello,
I am new to the website. I am 35 and waiting for the doctors office to call with the date for my surgery. I am not up on the abbreviations yet, but I am having an abdominal hysterectomy where only the uterus and cervix will be removed. I am having the surgery done due to being unable to regulate bleeding. My PAP's have all been normal as was my endometrial biopsy. My mom and younger sister have both had the surgery due to precancerous tissue. Logically I know having the surgery is the right decision, but how do you get over the feelings of no longer being able to participate in the miracle of childbirth (even if you know you don't want any more children)?

Hi and welcome
Im due to have the same procedure as you in 6 days time,my tubes and 1 ovary have been removed in previous surgery so im trying to decide whether or not they should remove my remaining ovary too.
I had both my tubes removed in 2001 following the birth of my daughter so have known since then that i am unable to have more,but knowing im about to lose my womb makes everything final and im very sad,but then i think how lucky i am too have children as there are so many out there unable to do so
I hope you get your date soon,wishing you well on your journey
Hugs Sarah

I don't think you ever get entirely over it! I had my surgery Feb. 2004 and still get sad when I see babies and know that I will never have another one!
I don't cry or anything, but kind of get annoyed sometimes when that happens - more "it's not fair" kind whining..... (only with myself!!)
We have our miracle baby and I knew that it was about 99% certain I wouldn't (couldn't) have another one, but still....
You learn to live with it and obviously, in my case, I (we) enjoy our little boy (who is now 7).
And also, like queenpink said, at least I (we) have one (or more). There are so, so many who would love to have a child and cannot have one - I think that's maybe even harder to live with.
It's a hard decision! Somehow you learn to live with it.
I'm not sure this will really help you.....
I will keep you in my thoughts. Hopefully things will go well for you!

Loekie