Help!!!

Hi I have posted a few times and being doing great except over doing it at holidays n started spotting n hurting. But that's been reassured by Dr. Now I just feel so blah and scared that hubby is not understanding or caring. We have been thru so much in our marriage that I don't want this and my feeling weird to cause a problem we can't overcome. I have situational anxiety so I take a small dose of medicine for that and in fact uped it bf surgery bc I was so scared n freaking out. And just worried not helping but feel its not all just me but unfortunately hubby doesn't see or maybe doesn't care. I don't know. Any advice would be wonderful. Thank you!

Chances are he doesn't understand. No man can and no woman can that has not been through this surgery. My DH is sick of hearing about my aches and pains too. He was there when the doc cleared me so he thinks I should be back to normal. I have been extre nice and that seems to help.

Thank you so much for replying! Yes I know your right. He does get onto me if I lift stuff n he's still helpful but I'm worried at the 6 WK checkup hes going to be like ok your good. I will try the extra nice thing but I just feel like I'm always have been extra nice and bending over backwards for him that just want at least one day him do for me lol. Owell guess I'm just blue today

Hi sweetie,

I know this is hard, but its time to sit down and have a heart to heart with your DH. I too suffer with forms of depression, and are triggered so fast, but even though its hard to try and explain whats going on in my head, it does help for him to help me through one of my episodes. Remember too, that this surgery will leave you up and down, and even though you kept your ovaries, they often go into shock after surgery and can leave you all over the place! Maybe this might be easier to explain to him. (do a bit of research on this first.. tons of info on here about Ovaries in shock and what it causes, emotions, side effects...)
i wish I could help more, but do know, there are alot of us going through the same thing, maybe in different variations, but still.
Make sure you come on here, even if you dont want an answer or advice, come on here and vent We are always here to listen.
Hugs xoxoxo

Perhaps if you introduce him to our Mister Hystersisters website he will be a bit more understanding.

Thank u loonsbluff. Yes I prob had to many heart to hearts w him. But maybe if I explained the sleepy ovaries thing he might be lil more understanding. I admit I forgot bout that too. I know a lot of mine is just fear of loosing him my good friends husband who worked w my husband in military was killed couple months ago and it hit hard and there for while he seemed to understand my fears and now seems like nope doesn't. And now w this surgery I feel like I am just wore down and tired of trying do for both of us. Sorry maybe tmi but just figure it all plays into it.
Catherine thank you for advice too. If I could I would. I'll mention it to him. Like maybe to get some info bout the sleepy ovaries. Ur usually helps if I make him seem the tech one lol. But then he seems not want me be dependent on him. So kind of gets confusing lol. Thank you both so much.