just a thought

just a thought that is running in my mind. i am having a lavh on nov. 8 and even though i have kids the thoguth that i will not have any more is very depressing to me. i always wanted a large family and i won't be able to. they are taking my ovaries and fallopian tubes,uterus and cervix. i am worried how this will effect myself and my husband. i am worried i will change and he might not be able to deal with the change. also for my children. i am afraid i will not be my fun bubbly self anymore. my doc. has me on anti-depressions right now because i am havin a hard time with this. i am scared of the outcome of the surgery and afraid of what could happen. i haven't been able to sleep or eat. i have lost ten pounds since i found out about the surgery. my doc said i will just have to come to grips with this. i have really no other chose. i have endo and adhesions and alot of cysts. the pain is so bad it will wake me up and all i can do is scream...i can no longer be intimate with my husband because of the pain. this is such a miserable time in my life...my father had emer. quad-heart bypass surgery 2 weeks ago. i have a real hard month and don't know where to turn. any comments good or bad will help...i am at the end of my rope.

I know exactly what kind of month you have had. My Dad had open heart surgery before my surgery too.....only he was in the hospital for over 3 weeks. 2+ of the weeks he was in a hospital 250 miles from home. It was a very stressful time.
The only way I got through it all was alot of prayer!! I have a deep faith in God and trusted Him for everything. When I was 250 miles from home for 8 days and left my 16 year old home alone, I trusted God. When I did not get paid for 4 of the days I was away(I am a single mom), I trusted God for my finances. When I found out I needed surgery, I trusted God for that. When I found out I would be out longer than I have time for, I trust God for my finances again. When during this, my DS said he was depressed, I trust God for my sons emotional health.
I have had alot going on since July.....2 car accidents, my Dad had a heart attack, then his surgery, then all his complications, then my surgery.
I have my friends and church family praying for me as well. The power of prayer is impressive!!!
I am praying for you! May God replace your stress with His peace. May God grant you serenity and may you trust in Him for all things!



Nancy

Oh sweetie, no wonder you're so stressed

I think that a good many of us mourn the loss of our uterous even when we know that we're not having more children ( I was already menopausal ). I think that maybe a talk with a counselor might be a benifit to you. Do you have a minister that you can talk to?

On a reassuring note - I had everything removed during my surgery and my personality hasn't changed. Have you discussed hrt with your dr ?

Remember that any time that you have a question, or need support - we'll be here for you.

I'll be keeping you and your dad in my

s

thank you all who have takin the time to answer. i really apperciate all comments.....

thank you!!!!!

Maybe this will help you. I feel better than I have in a long, long time. It's been just over 6 weeks..sex is better than before...everything is better than before.

This is something you need done for your health reasons...just remember to be joyful with the children that you do have.

Surgery won't change your personality..discuss everything with your doc and your husband. So many times, women talk to everyone but their husband. My husband just wanted me to feel better. We're joyful with the children that we do have.

hey hun i sure can understand what u are going thru...i too have adhesions and endo....i struggled for five yrs to make a baby and it took a divorce and some very very hard times when finally after the emotional rollercoaster and yrs of pain me and hubby made up and wouldnt u know it...i got preggo wooohoooooo but ..... now here i am and will no longer be having anymore babies.....

what i am doing to try and get thru this is remind myself on how lucky i am to have her in my life.....some women here do not have any children and will never be able to have them....i know what that felt like for a time in my life and its very very hard......but i also know that its hard to go on knowing u no longer have the choice on having anymore babies....so i can understand .....

another thing i do is look at all the yrs of pain......so i weigh everything against eachother and there ya go...the decision has to be made...a tah is the only way to go.......im only 24 yrs old...and i will watch my sis and bro make babies...but i will look at my daughter and smile because i know just how lucky i am....

we are all in our own shoes right now but i hope this might help u out however possible....many many and wishing u thru these hard times


Jen

I agree, I also feel better. I was worried about depression,
I'm 36 and have no children. I'm 3 months post op and fine.
It's a new phase in your life, a healthy one.
I have not had any depression issues. I have no worries anymore about my future and my health.
you are lucky you have children, you will be a healthier, happier mom!
good luck