No husband for pre op

Dear Gladheart,

Cut yourself some slack. You are getting ready to go through a very serious surgery. It is ok for you to feel the way you are. It is just important to let your husband know everything including your feelings.

I wish you the speediest of recoveries. You will be in my prayers.

jshots

Hi,

I didn't really think about my dh going with me to my appointments. He was there the whole day of surgery and for d/c home. Preop isn't really a big deal. More important is that he is there helping you out at home and for emotional support.

Good luck to you in your upcoming surgery. I feel so great now ( 7 weeks post op)... it'll be a relief for you once the surgery is over.

Lisa

SAH 12/11/03 ( fibroids and adenomyosis)

Rebecca.....you aren't alone......it's like my husband doesn't want to face the facts either. Everytime I talk about my surgery, he says....well, I would wait, or it's your decision.....like it is all up to me......or that I'm really going to be putting him out by being laid up for a while....what is it with men....seems like they are definitely the weaker sex!!! The lack of understanding what I am going through really hurts! I'm also one that is looking forward to the R&R after surgery! Good luck to you......

My husband did not even go with me to my surgery. However, mine was an emergency and they flew me out.. but still I was there alone in another city for 2 or 3 days...

Sometimes men just don't think about it.. they think that they are already doing what is best.

Good Luck

I think given all the different doctors and hospitals, every has a different experience, but my pre-op appointment wasn't a big deal at all, and I went to work afterwards.

I had an interview with a hospital representative where she took my insurance information and religious preference, and made sure she had all my current information, phone numbers, etc., then I had some blood drawn, and an EKG, and that was it. I had previously had a telephone interview where they got all my pertinent medical history, etc.

I didn't have any kind of exam at the pre-op, or speak to a doctor or anesthesiologist, was just sent in for those routine tests.

My DH didn't come with me to pre-op appt nor did he take me to the hospital the day of surgery. (Our relationship has been strained for some time). I believe I am a stronger person for having gone through it without him. I did OK and am still doing OK. I have family and some dear friends that were there..it really helped.

My Dh was not present during pre op and that was OK with me. I felt like I could ask all kinds of questions (for example, if I felt that I wanted to wait 8 weeks instead of six to have sex is that OK? ) and talk about all my female parts and gadgets.

I informed my dr that after my surgery, when he talked to my DH about how surgery went, to please tell him *all* I couldn't do. And what would happen, physically, mentally and emotionally, if I did too much.

It was very effective, and fortunately didn't scare my husband "away".