No Sex at 6 weeks

I had hoped that at 6 weeks I would get the okay to have sex but the doctor told me that I need to wait another week. But the doctor does not want to see me again, so I guess I am real nervous that in 1 week nothing will have changed. I am afraid of tearing something. I had a LAVH, so I have like a rebuild vagina with the cuff at the top, which is where the stitches were. I am really afraid that my husband will punch through the new cuff if I am not totally healed. I wanted to hear that I was healed not to be told well you are :confused 98% healed so wait a bit. I think I will be afraid to ever have sex now.

Is your husband being supportive... you all have your lives to have sex... you only have one chance to heal... I am having a hard time to slow down myself... not to be crude but you can help your DH with his needs.... You will be able to have sex again... just relax and take care of yourself...

WilmaLeah, I can imagine how you must feel. I have my 6 week appt on 4/20 and am hoping for the green light!

My big plan (for the 're-entry' event) is for me to be on top. That way I get to control - well everything! Depth of penetration, speed, direction,... all the parts that cause me some concern.

If you are worried that you won't be completely healed, schedule another appt with your Dr. just to make certain. It could even be with a nurse practicioner. Frankly, if I could see inside to see what the stitches look like (healed, still healing) I would be able to make the decision for myself!

i have a vaginal cuff too and i've been told not to even think about sex until 8 weeks... my dr will check at 6 weeks to see how i'm healing... its a long time, but i'd rather be safe than sorry...

Yup, vaginal cuff here too. My doctor gave me the green light at 6 1/2 weeks. But that was after my exam so I felt confident that everything had healed. But my husband and I are still taking it slow, he is very understanding and prefers to wait until I say I have no pain or discomfort before trying lovemaking.

Wilma -

If you are concerned it doesn't hurt to wait a bit longer. I was a slow healer so at 6 weeks Dr. told me to wait another 3 or 4. We waited about 3.5 but I bled and ended up with a yeast infection. Dr. said wait another 2 so I was closer to 12 weeks.

I do recommend being on top. Even now after all this time that is the best position for me.



G.

Vaginal cuff here too. I've had sex several times since the surgery and was scared as well. If your doctor says you only need a week, I think it would be pretty safe to say your very close to being healed. But for your own sanity, take it slow the first time (maybe have a drink so that you're not so tensed up that you can't relax) and not too deep. And don't worry if there's a little spotting at first - I and lots of other women here have experienced that with no detrimental effects. I'm still not TOTALLY back to normal after 8 1/2 weeks, but I'm feeling better every day - and so will you!

Hugs,
Sue

i was super freaked out too by the whole vaginal cuff thing and sex. i had to wait 8 weeks. the first time we attempted it, i still was really nervous, but we did lots of foreplay and by the time the actual event occurred i was really ready. sorry if thats TMI. i was still really worried for the next few times, but it went well every time, no pain, no discomfort so now i feel more relaxed. i know we could tell you it will be fine, but you wont feel that until you experience it yourself. and i suppose if you are really worried about how healed you are, you could make another appointment with your doctor to check your stitches again. maybe that would ease your mind. good luck.

I wouldn't be to worried about it. I was allowed to have sex at 3 weeks and my dr said my stitches were still visible. Take it slow and at YOUR pace. =)