looking for kindred spirit-bit of a rant too

Hello Loverly Ladies,

I'm going to have a TVH w/ AVR and PVR soon. And I was wondering if anyone else feels the same as I do. Perfectly fine.

A year ago I was diagnosed w/UP and was told the only sure cure was a TH or I could live w/it, so I lived w/it. At the time I was shellshocked, afterall, I was only 33 w/ one child and unsure if I wanted more kids. But as the year passed I came to the following conclusion:

I have had UP for a year(it got worse)and recently my DR found two more problems along w/ wacko cycles(for 14 years-break through, palm sized clots, prolonged periods, painful periods, missing periods etc..., intolerant of RX BC's, latex sensitivity, painful intercourse(needless to say sex has been a constant issue in our lives), and serious complications w/ my daughter (preterm labor at five months, we made it to full term-thank god). I've had enough.

So after a 14 years of very negative impact on my life and almost losing my child because my reproductive system couldin't get it's crap together(no DR has ever found a cause for any of these things) and now everything's falling out the "ol wazoo." I have to say I am not sorry to see it go. I don't feel the need to cry or mourn the loss of my "womanhood." I not one who believes that's what makes me a woman, it makes me anatomically(sp?) correct, but it doesn't make me who I am. (Those who feel otherwise-this is how I, the individual, feels-no slight intended)

I am awaiting my surgery with exited anticipation in hope of a far better life afterwards.

So if your feathers come from the same bird as mine, drop a line or two.

Thanks and best wishes to all

Hey there,

My reproductive system has let me down also. I have not had such pain all my life or anything like that, but it caused me to have my son almost three months early, and since then my uterus has been growing bigger and bigger and now it has to come out. I also don't feel like I need to mourn the loss of my uterus. It does not make me who I am, so I'm not interested in the loss at all. It does, however take away my choice to have another child (which we were hoping for) and that bums me out at times but I don't focus on all that negative stuff. I appreciate the things I have and make the most of it, I refuse to let things that I can't control ruin my happiness!

Hi Sugarbooger,

I had a tvh with a & p repairs last Mon and am doing great. I was hardly nervous at all during pre-op and didn't even take the valium they offered. I could feel the prayers surrounding me and felt very comforted. When they wheeled me into the operating room, it was very cold and that with the realization that this was really happening, I guess got the best of me and I started shivering. But within one minute, I was out. Don't remember the recovery room except when someone asked if I was in pain and I said no. Don't know how they got me to my room, but when I woke up, there I was! Did have a bad reaction to the general...if you've had one before with a bad reaction...have the anesthesiologist put a patch behind your ear. That's what my guy said I should do if I ever have another general. They did give me anti-nausea drugs before too. He also gave me a shot of long lasting pain med before I headed to recovery. This I learned from someone on this site. He acted surprised that I knew about it and asked my dr who gave the ok. This site is great for info like that!!!

I went home on Wed afternoon and have been getting better each day. Still can't pee on my own and have to do a self-cath...which is no big deal.

I can honestly say I have not had any severe pain. Mostly just a heavy feeling in my abdomen. I had an spinal and that spot hurts more along with the shot they gave me but hey, it's all been worth it.

Love the feeling of no bulge hanging there anymore. Even though I'm still a bit swollen, it nice to take a shower and not have that down there....sorry for being so graphic...but you know what I mean.

Your positive attitude will get you thru this! I was determined to look on the bright side too. You are what you think!!! Life is too short to focus on the negative and it brings everyone else down.

You'll do great....here's a big and for your surgery and a speedy recovery.

Hello Sugarbooger,

I had an appointment with my doc this past week, I will be having TVH, rectocele and cistocele (sp) repairs as well as my bladder raised! (I should know my surgery date tomorrow - though I can go in as early as a week from Wednesday - hopefully it will be by the end of this month) and I asked him if I was the only patient he had like me and if I was twisted or something, but that I'm feeling rather euphoric! His reply was this: (as he leaned in toward me a little and smiled) He Said, " That's the way it's suppose to be".....I'm very very excited, not scared yet, don't even feel anticipitory anxiety - .....My home is in order and even have a "new" shower right by my bedroom...I went out and bought a Bakers Rack yesterday (beautiful and only $25. bucks at Walmart) and enjoyed putting it together and hauling other furniture from basement to main floor - just having a blast doing what I love to do, and won't be able to do for a while...anyways, to cut to the chase - I'm exstatic! Good Luck!

Dear Sheryl,

Thanks a whole heapin' bunch for your post.

My POV is when life hands you lemons-forget the freakin lemonade- order champagne!! And believe me it took alot of bitter lemonade to learn that lesson.

I still want another child and I will have one. Gestation is not the only way to have a babeee! There are many options, as we all well know, so check'em out- Remember, champagne dahling not lemonade.


Here's to you sister! (and all our sisters)

I totally agree, I am having a TVH and post repair on 21st Jan and I don't have an issue with my femininity, I could understand a woman having a problem with that if she had no kids and really wanted them, but I have a 20yr old son and a 9yr old daughter, so that's not a problem. It takes more than a uterus to make us women. I can't wait for the 'no periods ever again' bit!! However, I am sat here at 4am (UK) and really having trouble sleeping lately, I am getting quite anxious, though I am in a better position than some women, my hyst isn't because of cancer or anything like that and I am a staff member so will get good treatment and a side room (a rarity in the UK) but I am just terrified of the pain afterwards and the not being able to just be home and not do anything!! Being single doesn't help, wish I had a partner at times like this, though I do have good friends and family. I will be worse come next week!

Hi SB,

I was counting down the days till my surgery...just could not wait!! I'd been through so much pain and I just wanted it to be taken care of.

I've spoken with women who felt they were losing their femininity. This had nothing to do with childbearing capablity for them...They just said they didn't feel feminine anymore.

Well, I thought about that and I decided that, for me, there was nothing feminine about being sick all the time, having no energy, hesitating to even want to leave my house to go out for an evening, bleeding so badly I would never wear anything but dark colors...

Post-op, I am a new woman....never felt better or more like a woman, because I can live again and I'm relishing each and every moment!



Holly

There are many things that make me feel like a woman, and in agreement with you ladies, pain and bleeding is not one of them...it goes deeper than that - for what ever reason "Rachmaninoff" stirs the woman in me....so do roses and when I feel that stirring it's not my uterus - get the point? And I still get to keep that!

But really, I'm not my "DH" who's privates are his best friend......I'm about more than that....

here's to all my lace and roses - and everything else that makes me feel like a woman....!