Am I being overly sensitive?

My surgery is getting closer and it seems like I'm getting so sensitive to everything lately and it's very annoying! However, in this instance, I'm not sure if I'm being overly sensitive or if what my friend did was out of line.

My husband went out of town a couple of weeks ago for work and stayed with some long-time friends of ours who after years of trying just had a baby girl via IVF. I was so happy for her, because I know that's all she ever wanted. I was unable to go with my husband because I had to work. When I found out that I was going to have surgery a couple of months ago, I called her several times and she never returned my calls. I really needed to talk to her as we've been friends for a very long time. She finally calls me back a month later and apologizes for not calling and told me that she was diagnosed with postpartum depression, is sleep deprived, and just not happy at all. So, naturally, I understood and forgave her. Anyway, while my husband was in town visiting them, he got to see and hold the baby of course and she took lots of pictures. When my husband showed me the pics on his iphone, I immediately started crying, because I know he'll never get to do that with me. Now my friend has posted those pics on facebook and it makes me so upset. She knows my situation, so I'm surprised that she did this. I feel like someone just poured salt on the wound. I never wanted kids as bad as she did, but it still hurts just the same.

Anyone experience anything similar? Maybe I'm just being too sensitive and need to get over it. I wish my emotions were not all over the place!!!

She should have asked you first.
Can you talk to her now and tell her it bothers you? Surely she'll take down the ones with your husband in them. She probably isn't trying to hurt you.

She probably does not know it could be upsetting to you. Since you've been good friends for so long can you try to explain how you feel. Sometimes when we are happy when a dream comes true we may say or do things that upset someone and never intend that to happen.

I think the pics of your DH are insensitive, you'll have to tell her why they bother you since she didn't get it on her own. But pics without your DH seem pretty reasonable for FB, they are for a lot of people in her life and I think she should be able to post baby things there. Its ineviable that you will be exposed to a certain amount of baby stuff and painful as it is, all you can really do is avoid it and build some mental defenses as you grieve. Its not easy sometimes, but this may be a friend who's not best to talk to right now, I doubt you two can be much mutual support for each other at this time in your lives. You each have your own issues right now and need support but not so much from each other. Friendships have an ebb and flow. I hope you can be more on track with each other later on.