TAH: Melt down

I posted this in reference to another question, but it applies here too.

Sex is great, different, but great.....

Let's see if I can put this in words.....

Some women, me included, enjoy the feeling of a penis "bumping" against the cervix during sex. Some women may need that "bumping" to achieve orgasm. Some women even feel uterine contractions with an orgasm.

Since my hysterectomy, I found out that I can achieve an orgasm even without my cervix. So it is still great, but different.

The first time we had sex, it definitely wasn't a WOW (but DH said it was!), but it was fine. But there were a lot of emotions involved: I was a little scared - would it hurt, would I bleed, what if I'm not completely healed, etc. But it was different and DH said it was different too. He says that it does feel a little different because he can feel that I don't have my cervix, but it still feels great. Just like my hand is different, just like his hand is different, etc. Different, but still great.

But we discussed it and I pointed out to him that different is the new normal and we'll have to accept it. Just like when he had back surgery, we had to accept a new normal. I'm just going to consider all the fun I'll have learning to "have fun" all over again. Not too long ago he told me he likes this "new normal" a lot.

Take it slow and easy and don't push yourself or punish yourself, just like our healing has taken time, this may too.

No more fear of pain, bleeding, losing a week (or more) every month because of the pain and bleeding. I'd definitely say sex is better now than before.

Does that help?

pmja...Thank you for that reply! It actually brought tears to my eyes (but then again that may be the hormones!)lol. I appreciate seeing it from a "positive" point of view. thanx

My impression reading through posts is the vast majority of women are extremely nervous before the surgery (duh!), but most of the outcomes are positive.

YES!! That most definitely does help! Thank you so much for taking the time to share your positive outcome!! You do not know how much that means to me!

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Originally Posted by pmja I posted this in reference to another question, but it applies here too. Sex is great, different, but great..... Let's see if I can put this in words..... Some women, me included, enjoy the feeling of a penis "bumping" against the cervix during sex. Some women may need that "bumping" to achieve orgasm. Some women even feel uterine contractions with an orgasm. Since my hysterectomy, I found out that I can achieve an orgasm even without my cervix. So it is still great, but different. The first time we had sex, it definitely wasn't a WOW (but DH said it was!), but it was fine. But there were a lot of emotions involved: I was a little scared - would it hurt, would I bleed, what if I'm not completely healed, etc. But it was different and DH said it was different too. He says that it does feel a little different because he can feel that I don't have my cervix, but it still feels great. Just like my hand is different, just like his hand is different, etc. Different, but still great. But we discussed it and I pointed out to him that different is the new normal and we'll have to accept it. Just like when he had back surgery, we had to accept a new normal. I'm just going to consider all the fun I'll have learning to "have fun" all over again. Not too long ago he told me he likes this "new normal" a lot. Take it slow and easy and don't push yourself or punish yourself, just like our healing has taken time, this may too. No more fear of pain, bleeding, losing a week (or more) every month because of the pain and bleeding. I'd definitely say sex is better now than before. Does that help?