I vant to be aloooone!

I can totally relate. This is a time where you need peace and calm. Especially if you're feeling nervous & emotional. Sometimes even well-meaning family and friends will say something that comes out wrong, and you don't need to add being upset about that to all the other stress.

Twenty-two years ago, when my mother had her hyst, I was a freshman in college and felt really bad that I couldn't be there. I called her on the same day as her surgery, and it really wasn't a good idea. She was groggy and couldn't really talk; she probably just wanted to sleep, and I may have woken her up. I was really freaked out, because she sounded awful, and it scared me. So maybe it's best to ask kids, even older kids, to stay away & not call for a day or two, for their sake as well as your own. As long as someone can reassure them that all is well, and you'll be up to seeing them soon.

DH and I haven't gotten around to talking yet about this. Neither of us has family close by, and I probably won't be in the hospital more than a couple nights at most (having lavh). But my parents are coming out, and we asked them to come a few days after the surgery, when I'll probably be home already.

Take all the space you need!!!

Leslie

P.S. - I was in the garden store a few weeks ago & saw one of those decorative carved resin "stones" that said: Friends welcome. Family by appointment.

My sister and 85 yr old mom sat all day waiting for my surgery to end ( went in at 9, in my room around 12 but they were in pre-op with me at 6:30!) but when I was in my own room I asked the nurses to tell them I just wanted to sleep. I remember her asking me if I wanted them to go home and I said " I don't really care where they go, I just want to sleep"- in my head I was thinking maybe they want to go to lunch or to the mall, they don't have to go home! I felt terrible after I woke up aroud 4, thinking I hurt their feelings, but they both said they understood and as long as they knew I was ok they were fine!
Be sure to speak up and let people know what you want- you will need the rest and with all the nurses in and out taking vitals and checking things out, it is better not to have alot of people around. Tell them you will have plenty of down time in your own home where you can wear comfy clothes and be a little more hospitable!
Best of luck!
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tah/bso for fibroid and ovarian cysts

Hi everyone

I mostly agree about wanting to be alone before the surgery to get things straight in my head--so I don't go insane...lol! I agree with (((Edona))) as mentioned earlier about people driving 50 miles to see you at your worst......but you know--they won't come see you when you only live 15 minutes away from them! Go Figure!!!!

Anyways, I plan on staying in my room the evening before the surgery -- to be alone. Then everyone, I don't care who, can come see me in the castle or even after I get home. But I am sure, they will all come see me in the hospital...which is 75 Miles from where they live, and see me with my hair all messed up and me all drugged up, but by the time I get home, they won't drive 15 minutes, 15 miles to come see me when I am looking better and probably not as drugged up. Go Figure!

Do what you want, and what feels right to you. This is YOUR time, before YOUR surgery......so I would do as "I" wanted to do!!! You are the up and comming not them!

Alle