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Anyone else had anything like this? (this is long)
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05-01-2005, 08:19 PM
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Posts: 230
Hysterectomy: April 13th, 2005
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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Anyone else had anything like this? (this is long)
I had my hysterectomy on April 13th. Abdominal, bikini cut, still have my ovaries.
Well, about a week after my surgery, the left side of my incision started draining. The next day, I went to the ER. The doctor I saw wasn't an GYN but just a regular doctor. He told me to keep it bandaged and that it was ok, blah, blah, blah. A week later, I went for my 2 week check-up. My GYN said it was ok and to NOT keep it bandaged because it needed to get some air to it. Well, it stopped draining. The next day, the RIGHT side started draining and is still draining pretty bad. My dr. is telling me that this is ok but everyone that I have talked to that has had a hysterectomy hasn't had this happen to them.
My tummy is still pretty sore and swollen, too. We went to church this morning and I didn't think I was going to make it through the service because my tummy was hurting from sitting totally upright for so long.
I thought for sure that I would feel better than this by now and it's starting to really depress me. I want to feel like ME again!
Another thing I wanted to ask. Ok, when I had my youngest almost 7 years ago, I had a tubal ligation. I didn't want and do not want any more kids. But since I have had my hysterectomy, I feel really depressed about it. Even though I knew I didn't want any more kids, now that choice has been taken from me. So it's like if I do change my mind, it's just too bad. I no longer have that option. I have 2 boys that I love with all of my heart. But I always wanted a little girl. Now, I will never have a baby girl. Is it normal to have this depression even though you don't even want another baby? I feel like I'm being silly.
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05-01-2005, 08:25 PM
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Posts: 44
Hysterectomy: April 21st, 2005
Surgery Type: TVH
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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Anyone else had anything like this? (this is long)
I know how you feel about having kids! I cried for 2 weeks after I had my tubal (within 24 hrs after having my 18 month old) but finally got used to it. Now I feel like I'm going through it all again! Hugs to you! About the incision, I'd watch it really close and notify dr immediately if you notice any increase in redness, swelling or drainage. Are you taking tub baths yet? I have used nothing but Dial soap on my body or in my bath since my tvh. Dial now comes in good scents, so it's not too bad. Take care!!
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05-01-2005, 08:29 PM
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Posts: 2,634
Hysterectomy: April 11th, 2005
Surgery Type: TAH
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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Anyone else had anything like this? (this is long)
Cajunbabe, I feel the same way you do, I had a tubal ligation 22 years ago my children are 22 & 24, I am 44, I didnt want anymore kids but I feel depressed that it is not a choice that I have. Everyone keeps telling me to give it time and in a few weeks I will be glad that I had the tah. I sure hope they are right. I'm going back to work tomorrow half a day for the next 3 weeks and am hoping that will help me to get my mind off of me and back to my life as I knew it. I cant wait to talk to my dr on the 12th as I have tons of questions for him. I pray that these feelings will lift soon for all that feel that way.
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05-01-2005, 08:42 PM
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Posts: 230
Hysterectomy: April 13th, 2005
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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Anyone else had anything like this? (this is long)
Thanks everyone! You are all so sweet!
I also have a lot of questions to ask my doctor. I need to write them down because there were some that I meant to ask him about at my 2 week appt. and I forgot to.
It's just so weird.
It feels like my uterus was removed and replaced with a huge rock.
I pee'd fine up until a few days ago. Now it feels kinda weird. It doesn't hurt...I don't know how to explain it. It's just weird.
I also cannot for the life of me figure out how I weigh 5 lbs. less than I did before my surgery, yet still have a swelly belly lol. I told my DH that this is the first time that I have lost weight and my clothes were too tight lol.
It's just this draining that is bugging me! My doctor is telling me not to wear a bandage. I guess I'm supposed to just let it get all over my clothes?!
Anyone else sick and tired of wearing granny panties? LMAO! I swear, I am burning these things after my incision completely heals lol.
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05-01-2005, 09:16 PM
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Posts: 55
Hysterectomy: April 13th, 2005
Surgery Type: TAH
Ovaries: Undecided
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Anyone else had anything like this? (this is long)
Yes, Cajunbabe! I was just telling DH today, "I am so sick of these granny panties. I want my thongs back!"
Hoping (for a successful recovery and a normal life again!)
PS. My surgery was also on 4-13-05, TAH/BSO and bladder suspension
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05-01-2005, 09:41 PM
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Posts: 4
Hysterectomy: April 5th, 2005
Surgery Type: TAH
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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Anyone else had anything like this? (this is long)
First of all, you are NOT being silly. This is a hard thing to go through; harder than I ever realized it would be, both physically and emotionally.
I, too, have two little boys and always wanted a little girl, but I felt I was through having children...or so I thought. When I found out I had to have a hysterectomy, all of these feelings I never allowed myself to think about surfaced, and yes, I would have liked to have another baby. I had my hysterectomy for cancer. And although I think I truly mourn not being able to have another baby, I am at the same time so thankful that my tumor was caught early and I should be free and clear (at least of this disease!) for the rest of my life. Most importantly, I will be able to love my boys for hopefully a really long time. I don't think your depression about losing the choice to decide is out of place at all. How many times have we all definitively said we will or won't do something, only to change our minds months or years later? It's our right to change our own mind, so it's almost like in having this operation we've lost part of our innate rights as women. But, and perhaps I'm off-base about this one, I think the reality is we still have as much capacity to love our children and be loved by them as we did before the surgery; having another baby wouldn't really change that, I don't think.
Hang in there! I'm with you!
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05-02-2005, 01:22 AM
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Posts: 185
Hysterectomy: April 26th, 2005
Surgery Type: SAH
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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Anyone else had anything like this? (this is long)
I am only 5 days post-op...but having a hard time dealing with the fact that my choice of whether or not I wanted to have another baby has been taken away fro me...which is very weird because I did NOT want anymore kids.
As far as "granny panties" go....I can NOT wear them....then drive me CRAZY. So I have been going all natural
Shan
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05-02-2005, 01:30 AM
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Posts: 16
Hysterectomy: March 31st, 2005
Surgery Type: TAH
Ovaries: Removed both
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hI everyone I to have had that drainage In fact I went into the E.R thought they may need to reclose it. I was given antibotics and told to let it drain and keep it clean. sometime you will get a pocket of fluid build up. Hope that helps. my was a light pink. Leann
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05-02-2005, 11:21 AM
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Posts: 117
Hysterectomy: April 7th, 2005
Surgery Type: TAH
Ovaries: Removed both
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Anyone else had anything like this? (this is long)
I just trashed my "granny panties" yesterday. I will be four weeks post-op thursday(TAH BSO). I was feeling frumpy enough with the swelly belly still going. Got the thongs back out(TMI) I guess but there you go. At three days post-op I had to and reopened the right side of my bikkini cut, went to the dr and she replaced some steri strips but the next day it starting draining. Dr said as long as it did not have an odor or yellowish color that it would be ok, and to be sure to keep it clean.
P.S This place has been great for me, Thanks everyone
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05-02-2005, 12:17 PM
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Posts: 83
Hysterectomy: September 29th, 2004
Surgery Type: TVH
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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Anyone else had anything like this? (this is long)
CajunBabe,
I know exactly how you feel about not having anymore children. My husband and I definately did not want anymore. in Oct 2003 I had an ablasion and my tubes tied and was told could not have anymore because once you have the ablasion the inside of your uterus is scar tissue and it could tear.
Had my TVH in October of 2004 then in Feb of 05 a friend at work brought in her 3 week old baby boy. Of course I had to hold him then almost had to leave for the day right after that. I was so depressed for over a week and so close to tears everytome I though of it. I still don't want to be around babies because I am affraid of what my reaction will be. I keep telling myself to stop acting so stupid because I was 1000% sure I did not want anymore and knew I couldn't for over the last year.
At times I feel so embarrassed because I start to have tears well up in my eyes when I see a baby. I know I have to get through this but it is very hard.
I've talked to my hubby about my emotional roller coaster and he stated if you want another baby, we can adopt but the thing is I know I do not want another one in my head, my heart just does not want to listen at times.
I guess before it was my decision - now the decision is out of my hands although I would have another TVH in a heartbeat because I have no more pain or constant bleeding.
Good luck to you and lets pray we can all get through this emotional time quickly.
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