7 days post-op and miscarriage

Hello sisters. I had a radical abdominal hysterectomy on the 6th. I had been having problems for years and while I am not "thin", doctors had blamed my large stomach on food and ignored my symptoms. After years of suffering, I was taken to the ER by my husband 3 weeks ago for hemmoraging, and the exam revealed a tumor the size of a small watermelon, which completely hid my uterus which was also elnlarged to the size of a 7 month pregnancy. Mind you, I am 5'7" and was about a size 14 before the tumor--at surgery I was wearing a 22--mostly because of my stomach--but I had seen TONS of doctors none ever did ultrasound or even blood work, just blamed me and said I obviouslyl ate too much and needed a trainer. The night before my surgery, my doctor called at 10 pm to say that I was preganant--what????????? My HCG level was very low and I knew that I had to be at least 3 months along (too miserable for sex since then). THe next morning after 4 pregnancy confirmations and ultrasounds, he said that the baby was a chronic ectopic and had failed to develop but had not died completely--just stayed in the embryo stage--he called it bizarre. He left on vacation the morning after, told me to come in 4 weeks for post op--end of discussion. I am devastated and have no idea what to do. Any advice? All I can do is pray and cry--not to mention the extreme physical pain. He called my abdomen "Hiroshima" due to scar tissue, tumor growth, etc...

oh wow i am so sorry for our loss! I too had an ectopic pregnancy, and it was devstating, you need time to heal and grieve, huge hugs to you

Thank you so much. Huge hugs to you too. I am sorry for your loss--it is not a club I think anyone wants to be a member of. xo

I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I had an etopic 18 years ago. I was 20 at the time and my fallopian tube had ruptured which casued me to have an emergency surgery at that time. I do understand how you feel. You need time to process, grieve and heal from the loss. I am very sorry that your physician was not supportive or even sensative to your needs!!!! I was told at the time that I would never be able to have kids after that. Well that was not the case as I gave birth to 3 more children and lost 4 more. You will be in my prayers hun

I am sorrry to hear about your loss. SO if you don't mind what did happen? They did surgery anyway and had to take it out? That is scary. I am so sorry , i have never had that but I have had miscarriage and that devastated me at the time and I went into a depression. Prayers to you.

I am sorry for your loss, time heals everything. I wish i had more advice for you, i can just imagine the emotions you are feeling and physically as well. i think atm i think you just let time heal.... you still here with ur and ur husband after all of this and thats super important. This forum is full with all different type of ladies and wonderful at that so dont be shy to vent here because i know for sure we will hear ya out. hope to keep hearing from you and take very good care of yourself.

I'm sorry you have had this experience and sorry your Dr sounds so insensitive. I'm glad you found us here and we are here to offer support. Take care of yourself as you have been through a lot. Sending hugs to you.

I am so sorry that you had to go through all of that. After everything you have had happen, you need to grieve for the baby you lost, the future you dreamed of and make a new future. When I read your post, it brought tears to my eyes. You have many of us that will support you through your recovery. Please take time to heal.

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I'm so sorry for your loss and the lack of care that you are getting. I wish I could say more, but there really isn't words to express. I do hope that you are getting the support at home that you need from your family and close friends.

Is it your PCP that went on vacation or your surgain, because a lot of times they want you to see your regular doctor in the mean time.

Millie Mouse, wow. I am so sorry for all you went through and so grateful for the doctors being wrong about you having children. I can't imagine the loss of 5 pregnancies--you must be such a strong woman. Thank you for your kind words.