Scared to have sex with green light!! (sigh)

Ok, got the green light to resume sexual relations again, and I was so scared when we attempted, I kept being tense and just not a good person to want to have sex with period. I'm scared that it'll tear the vaginal cuff and everything..

Help ease my mind!!! thanks in advance for any helpful advice you can give me!!!

I don't know what kind of surgery you had, but I had a TVH with A & P Repair - quite extensive surgery. We were advised to wait 8 weeks and actually waited 9 since I had bleeding until 8 1/2 wks.

It's normal to be anxious, but if your Dr. says it's okay, you shouldn't tear anything. We certainly weren't too adventurous at first but it was a huge relief to know that things were okay and sex was good.

Take it easy, try to relax and trust that all will be good.

I had a LAVH/BSO on Sept 26th, 2007 for cervical cancer and not on any hormone replacments.

Hi Gina:

I don't blame you. It's perfectly natural to be a bit apprehensive.
I feel the same way. I know my DH will ask but I'm going to wait until I am good and ready - this time. After my first preg (4 weeks) the doctor gave us the go ahead. I definitely did not want to . . . but I was young (23) at the time and let DH talk me into it. Nothing bad happened. It was okay.

I just feel strongly now that I am not going to be 'pushed' into anything.

Gina, nothing bad will happen. Take your time. I will too.

I think we're all nervous the first time, but for me it didn't hurt at all and was LOTS of fun!

its normal to be nervous. just make sure the first few times you both go slow and find a comfortable position.

Giddy-up girl get back on that horse and ride ... ride slow and easy at first but after the first couple of go rounds the pasture you are going to ride like you never did before and you will love it more than before no more pain in the saddle ... yeehaw !!!! get that fear in check ... you will be soo glad you did

Gina72

Just because you've been given the green light, it doesn't necessarily mean it's the right time for **you**. Take your time ~ no pressure ~ and everything should be OK, whether it's today, tomorrow or next week ...

It may help you to read this HS article <link> Resuming Sex Post-Op also.

Wishing you all the very best! Take care.

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Originally Posted by waitingstill Giddy-up girl get back on that horse and ride ... ride slow and easy at first but after the first couple of go rounds the pasture you are going to ride like you never did before and you will love it more than before no more pain in the saddle ... yeehaw !!!! get that fear in check ... you will be soo glad you did

LOL The way you replied had me laughing!! Thanks, I know its me, but I just need to relax. We tried again and its really tight in there.. and i'm sure i'm not totally relaxed ... time will be on our side and i'll do better as time goes I hope!

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Originally Posted by pooodle Gina72 It may help you to read this HS article <link> Resuming Sex Post-Op also. Wishing you all the very best! Take care.

Thank you so much! I'l look at the article! Its nice knowing others are out there that I can ask questions to!