My story about recovery (kids mentioned)

Well, I was really out of it when I posted yesterday. I get home from the hospital after having to stay an extra day. Could not go on my own and pain was at an 8 with morphin pump and shots of tordol. finally got it under control when they took the pump off and gave me shots of tordol thru the IV. Problem with IV. It was hurting to have it in and it was back bleeding and I showed her and she said she would fix it. She flushed the line with saline with caused me to come off the bed it stung so much and then she gave me a shot of tordol which had me starting to bite down to keep from screaming and then flushed the line again which had me screaming, then she goes oh, this line has to be pulled out now. Which she does, but my hand still hurts and it has been a day since she pulled the line and my hand and arm to my elbow is swollen twice its normal size. Doc said that would go away in a couple of days. So I finally get the ok to go home, call hubby who was working from hom and he says he can't get away so I have to call a friend to pick me up and bring me home. I get home and get in bed and I am wiped out. At this point I can't even stay awake thru a 30 min tv program. I take some pain meds and then hubby goes, while you were gone something bad happened. I am thinking that one of the fish died or he or I lost our jobs or something because he used the same tone with me that he does when he tells our daughter bad news. So I am like "what is it, just tell me I want to get to bed" and he goes well great grandma Christy died. If that did not knock the wind out of me, then finding out that she died while I was in surgery and they waited to tell me because they did not want me to worry about it, did. I started to cry and then had to stop becuase it hurt like all get out. So I can't cry becuase that makes my pain worse. The funeral is on saturday and I have to try to be able to get out and about today (friday) and go get my daughter and son some clothes to wear for the funeral. I know I can't send my hubby becuase he was planning on wearing jeans and he is a paul berrer. The problem I am having now is that I am on Lortab 7.5 and taking 2 every 4 hours like they told me and after 2 hours I am ready for more and can't take more. I am going to call the docs office in the morning to find out if I can get something else. Over all I am feeling ok, I hurt all over and my body is really tired, my hips especially hurt, not sure why on that one. I had hubby give me a shower and we have not found a shower chair yet so that wiped me out. I sleep a lot but then wake up a lot in pain. Hubby and daughter are doing a good job of taking care of me. I am just kinda depressed becuase I feel like I just lost my insides and now my great grandmother (with my kids we had 5 generations) We did get a 5 generation pic but we were going to get an updated one next week. I am just really sad and can't let it out because it hurts physically too much. Sorry I can't be more peppy but I just feel like I have been run over and then backed over and run over again. I wish a speedy recovery to all others and if you have any questions, feel free to ask and I will answer next time I am up to it. Leah

I'm so sorry to hear what a bad time you've been having. That timing of your great grandmother's death must be so dificult. with the kids clothes, isn't there anyone else who could go, or couldn't they wear something they already have? It will be difficult enough for you to get through the funeral - you really need to get all the rest you can the day before!
Hope that the pain eases soon

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Originally Posted by lkhanson The funeral is on saturday and I have to try to be able to get out and about today (friday) and go get my daughter and son some clothes to wear for the funeral. I know I can't send my hubby becuase he was planning on wearing jeans

Dear Leah,

I'm sorry to hear of the passing of your great-grandmother. I hope you aren't planning to drive your children to shop for clothes. Perhaps your dh can drive, or you could enlist the help of a friend or family member.

Please rest as much as you can. I hope you can go home immediately after the funeral. You need your rest.

This is just awful! I am so sorry your going through this.

If a friend can't go in your place shopping maybe you could call ahead, explain you just had major surgery and see what the store can arrange for you?

When I was at Gantos, we had a simular situation (large 10 yr old). We were able to pre-pull so things, had security meet her with a wheel chair at the door, and even 'pre-shopped' Winklemans (yeah I know I'm dating myself) when we didn't have a couple of accessories.

I would think with a couple of calls, you will find a store very willing to work with you. Heck, if I wasn't a 1000 miles away, I'd come get you myself.

Julie

Firstly many hugs to you....
You have been through a very traumatic experience...i havent divulged these things while posting on here but i believe it may help you....while i was in the castle i lost my uncle, anut and cousin from a car accident,...i was the same as you, too sore to cry and grieve...i have since gone through the biggest guilt trip of my life because i dont feel as though i have mourned them the way i should have....i went to the funeral 2 days after i came home, and it has to be the most lonely experience i have ever been through...i am only telling you this to forewarn you..... at that time i was still very me me me, you know, the helloo i am also in pain syndrome...
When you do go to the funeral, you need to be prepared that people will be needing you as their support.... it is very hard but i learnt the hard way...as much as i loved my family that passed, i was still on really good pain meds and thinking that it was all about what i had gone through, (i had cancer).
if i could turn back the clock, i would have forgotten about me for awhile and concentrated on the pain of others....
I am not saying that you will be selfish as i was, i am saying the pain meds can do some horrible things to your mind...and to be aware of it...i now wished that i had forgotten my pain and shown my grief, to help me and others.
I hope you can make sense of this, alot of emotions have come to mind for me and i am having a hard time expressing them for you...
I sincerely hope you have a better experience than i did.
My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time....if you need to talk please feel free to pm or email me any time.....take care..xx

I understand your pain. I got out the hospital on a Friday and the following Monday my Father-in-law passed. I hated I could not do anything but I made sure I was at the funeral. I was not able to go to the cemetary, because I could not stand or be out in the weather, it was February or to the Repass. I hope you can find someone to do the shopping for you so you will be able to attend the service. I had a close friend drive me directly home after the service so my husband could stay with his family. He kept calling to check up on me but I had a lot of family support. They brought me food and stayed and talked with me until I was just wiped out. I will keep you in my prayers because I remember how I felt not being able to be with my family and also helping my Mother-in-law planning everything. I'm usually the one to do a lot of the planning and arranging.

Take care and try to rest as much as possible before you have to attend the service. It's draining just sitting especially when you are still trying to heal from the surgery.

and much prayer

I am so sorry to hear this
Like already suggested maybe you could phone the store and tell them what you need ect,or get someone else to shop for you as you really could make yourself unwell if you go yourself
I hope you can get something sorted,thinking of you at this time
Hugs Sarah

Hey Leah, Big to you and lot's of prayer's.I hope you are able to have someone go to the store for you,or as the other sister's said,call ahead.Maybe call your doctor and see if they will give you something a bit stronger,you can't heal well if you are in alot of pain.No need to suffer! I'll be thinking of you,I know this is such a hard time for you to go through.Stay strong