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04-16-2001, 12:35 PM
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Hysterectomy: June 29th, 2001
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This is to be added to my first list of questions. The advice I've been given so far has been great. I will definately be looking into those relaxtion tapes. Yes I am married, and my husband will be able to be off work for 3 days upon my arrival home. As for getting the second and third opinions, this was actually my fourth. I've been back and forth to doctors for the past six years. It was discovered from previous surgeries that I had had as a toddler, left me with endometriosis. Doc said that it looked like someone poured crazy glue down my fallopian tubes. Therefore, no chance of having children. I have very painful periods and long ones also. Ranging from 6 days to 12 days. Yippee!! Lucky me. They are very heavy and the pain is unbearable. They've been like that for about 6 years. Drugs have not helped this situation. My main concern is the pain that I have during intercourse. It's never ending and I just want it to end. To have a normal life. I know my husband will be waiting on me hand and foot, but do you think I will need someone around for a few extra days. My friend down the street can come check in on me, and my friends from work. Would that be good enough. Or am I better off having one of my parents or in-laws come. Or will they drive me crazy? Thanks for all the advice girls!!!!!!! RachelJ
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04-16-2001, 02:26 PM
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Posts: 1,345
Hysterectomy: August 10th, 2000
Surgery Type: TAH
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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I'm so sorry to hear about everything you've been through. I hope this surgery helps you get a normal life back.
I was ok at home alone after 3 days. My husband did several things to make it easier for me alone during the day:
1. EVERYTHING I might possibly need (clothing, toilet paper, cups, food, juice, etc.) was on a counter at waist-level. This made the house look a bit cluttered for awhile, but believe me, you do NOT want to bend or reach for anything!
2. He prepared food that I could easily "prepare" (meaning heat up) and eat myself, with little effort.
3. He made sure there were lots of different kinds of juices for me. I couldn't eat much, but needed juice to get my digestive system working again. He even poured juices into smaller containers for me, so I wouldn't have to lift large, heavy containers.
4. He made sure the cordless phone was next to me when he left each day, and I carried it in a pocket all day, in case I fell, or needed help.
With all his preparations, I had no difficulties at all looking after myself during the day. I did wait until he got home to take a shower, though, in case I needed help.
Good luck!
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04-16-2001, 02:56 PM
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Hi Rachel,
People are different in how they feel and how they feel about help. My in-laws would have driven me crazy and I would have preferred being alone to THAT, but maybe you have a different kind of relationship with yours.
While my husband works at home and I appreciated the fact that he was at least in town for a few weeks after my surgery, I also found it helpful to have someone come to help me shower and dress and get settled for the day while he was busy working. I don't think I would have wanted someone around all day, but somebody to stop in and help with lunch or to pick up whatever you might need off the floor, out of the frig, etc., could be useful. Having someone around all the time is tiring for me when I'm not feeling well. Somehow I think I'm supposed to visit, or want to visit, and then I feel drained.
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04-16-2001, 03:21 PM
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Posts: 4,118
Hysterectomy: March 16th, 2001
Surgery Type: TAH
Ovaries: Removed both
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This subject has been discussed many, many times that I have seen. But, it's such an important one that it makes me happy to see it keep coming up by the LIW's!
I had a radical TAH BSO on a Fri. and was discharged home on Sunday. So, DH and 2 teenagers all there to get me settled first day. The next 2 days my sister came over for a few hours each day and left after I ate lunch. This just left me alone for a couple of hours til my kids got home from school. I was more comfortable staying in my downstairs living room during the day, so I came downstairs before my DH went to work and didn't go upstairs again until DH went to bed. I took my little pitcher from the castle home and had it kept filled with ice and water. Also, had the remote, phone, tissues, books, magazines, meds, snack crackers etc... all very reachable.
After that, I was on my own during the day and had no problems. I did keep all of the above mentioned handy like that for better than 2 weeks. For lunch, I had things handy that could just go in the microwave.
I would say that one of the biggest helps that we all received as a family was people providing dinners for us during my first post-op week. Some family members and friends each brought over a complete home cooked meal for us. My co-workers (who are spread throughout the country in Denver, Los Angeles, Chicago and Atlanta) got together and called our local Olive Garden restaurant and provided dinner another night. This provided delicious meals for us all with no worry and also lots of leftovers. This helped keeped me from stressing and gave my family a break from taking over all of my chores. You know how that is.....in my case the 3 of them were stumbling over what I normally do myself! LOL
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04-18-2001, 06:54 PM
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Posts: 20,817
Hysterectomy: December 14th, 2000
Surgery Type: TVH
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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Hi Rachel, I had a TVH with Rectocele repair in December 2000. My surgery was on the Thursday and I was released on the Monday morning. I had such a long stay due to very heavy bleeding that depleated by red cell level and left me dizzy and very tired.
My MIL lives with us and minds the kids while we're at work, so getting help wasn't too much of a concern. Still, she thinks I'm a big baby and tends to not be overly good at "serving" me.
From the day I was home, I was able to fix myself simple meals (as long as it didn't involve standing over the stove too long or wasn't requiring elaborate cooking skills - I don't have those skills in the first place ) and to look after my own needs. I could manage stairs and the likes. Therefore, I would have been ok to look after my needs, just not after the kids and the cat's needs (couldn't bend to feed the cat and put him out).
It is likely that, as long as things are layed so you can reach them easily, you will be ok on your after the 3rd day home. It's a good idea to have someone looking one you, once in a while, or be just a phone call away, should you need something from the store or the pharmacy. Or just for mental support .
Remember, though, that we all heal at different rates and what would have been good for me would not necessarily have been good for someone else.
Best of luck.
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