Has anyone had a hysterectomy as an elective procedure as opposed to doctor suggested

My husband and I have been married for just over three years. I know that does not sound like a long time, but I am weeks from my 39th birthday, and I have never had children. I am overweight, and I know this will present a problem. I asked a doctor once about finding reasons why I have never succeeded in becoming pregnant and he just blew it off. We should be in a position soon where we can afford doctor visits again, and I have been working on losing weight. I either need to start testing right away, or I want to get a hysterectomy. Every time I get my period, I get depressed. I am not sure how much longer I can do this before it is too much. I may come across as selfish, and for that I am sorry, but it is affecting my life too greatly for me to not consider al options. I would rather go forth in life knowing I will never have a child then to go every month being reminded by my own body that I once again failed in my efforts to become pregnant. If anyone has any ideas, please let me know. Thank you.

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There's a forum on this site called Hysterectomy Options and Alternatives where you can start a new thread, just as you did here, to ask for support and to ask questions. Having a hysterectomy is a major operation which can have long-term consequences, so be sure to browse the Hysterectomy Options Checkpoint for important information. Research, ask questions, exhaust viable options and get a couple of medical opinions.

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