Who to tell and how?

I never really thought about it being too much information. I have delt with infertility for years and I'm just so used to everyone knowing everything about my cycles. I think that sometimes dh gets uncomfortable, esp when someone asks what type and we start talking about the "girly stuff".

I just mentioned this kinda thing in one of my posts LOL
I got into an arguement with my DH, he was mad that I can tell people if I want to but I don't want his family to know. He honestly did not get how upset I was that he did not "Get it". His parents have maybe spoken to me what 4x this past year. They call him on his cell phone not mine. It is obvious they don't want to talk to me and honestly..I am perfectly ok with that. BUT why would I want them to know my issues? I am getting so much work done I don;t want them to know all the details. I know they will ask if he told them, just to be polite. We live across the Ocean from them (We are in Hawaii, they are on the East coast) what can they really do? I don't want to advertise I am not going to be able to have more children.. I have 2 so I feel lucky I have them and I didn't plan on having more but someone deciding that for you..well..it's been more difficult for me than I thought. I didn't think it would be but now that it is happening it is kinda is. I tell people I know because I am looking for their recovery experiences in the hospital I am going to..Plus it's mine! It's not like I would call my mom and say DH is having surgery on his peepee.

I try not to mention it other than just the hyster, but if something comes up I will just say that I am having surgery. Well, two of our friends are pregnant now and I am so very happy for them..I really am but scheduled for a hysterecomy in 30 days, I don't really want to hear about their pregnancy. Hopefully, after this is all done, I will be back to my old self and it won't bother me. I am just so stressed out about it and I have been in an foul, evil mood. SO I try to stay away from people LOL. Thank god my DH is TDY this week, I think he needed a break from me. I need a break from myself to be honest.

I quite admittedly have a morbid sense of humor so I would just say I was having "the alien" removed. When I got the quizical looks I would then tell them I was having a benign tumor removed from my abdomen. It's funny but I never really thought about my surgery as having my uterus removed. I was getting the massive fibroid tumor removed and while we were at, getting rid of it's manufacturing plant.

That's all people needed to know and the other thing was, I never got a single.. "Oh, you'll be up and running in a few days" or other stupid comments that people make when they hear hysterectomy. "Hysterectomy" is so common place these day that people dont really think of it as major surgery. "Abdominal tumor removal" however... that actually sounds like something that warrants a little of pre-op stress and plenty of post op recovery time.

Im the office manager for a large church and everyone seems to think its their right to know whats goign on with me. Im not trying to sound mean but sometimes the grapevine gets to be to much! Everyone knows what Im having and unfortunately they think it gives them the right to waltz into my office with their opinions and let me tell you some of the elders have some really outdated statement.... they make me laugh sometimes and othertimes I want to strangle them LOL.....

with people outside of work/church Im just saying Im having surgery...and if they ask a hysterectomy if its a guy that normaly is the end of that conversation and if its a women I sometimes hear war stories and sometimes get good advice!

my husband and my sisters were the only ones who knew until I made the mistake of telling an aquantance when she invited me to an affair on the day after my scheduled surgery and she offered to visit. now I am sorry as i do not want any visitors right away

if I think they are being nosy I just tell them I have had major non living threatening surgery and if I think they are really asking because they care, I tell them.

I had 2 of DH's aunts tell me at my sister in law's funeral, my DH and I needed to either have a wedding or have a baby because "we" needed good news for a change.

It really hurt a)because of the circumstances and b)because we had been trying to get pregnant for a few years already without their knowledge.

People can think they are being supportive,etc. and not realizing what they have said end up making inappropriate comments. I know I have accidentially made the wrong comment at the wrong time myself as well but with the whole hormone/moodiness thing happening right now I'm best to not have to deal with a lot of people.