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emotional rollercoaster - mostly fear!
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11-28-2004, 03:40 PM
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Posts: 21
Hysterectomy: December 13th, 2004
Surgery Type: LAVH
Ovaries: Removed both
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emotional rollercoaster - mostly fear!
Hi,
I am scheduled for LAVH/BSO on Dec 13th and I am really terrified. It seems like no matter what I do I am having trouble accepting this surgery. It just seems so radical. I think the medical community needs to come up with a way to remove these diseases, but not our organs!
I have endo and mulitiple fibroids (multiple small ones and one big one on top of my uterus) I have undergone an endometrial ablation (with no results) and a diagnostic laparascopy and it seems that the best option to get rid of these problems is a hysterectomy. The other option is a Myomectomy (from a different doctor) and removal of the endo through an abdominal incision. The doctor that I trust will not do this surgery because she feels that it would be a temporary fix because at 40 yrs old there is plenty of time for the fibroids to come back.
I really like my doctor and trust her, but I am so scared. Is this fear normal? I feel well informed, I have done much research and gotten several opinions but the fear remains.
My doctor tells me I need to "embrace" the surgery, but no matter what I do I still have fear. Sometimes I think maybe I am not ready for this and I could postpone the surgery, but I am not sure if one is ever "ready" for this unless you are in severe constant pain or have absolutely no other choice. I am in constant pain, but it is usually not severe. Also if I postponed surgery, the fibroid continues to grow and I may not be a candidate for LAVH.
There are so many unknowns and so many what ifs. It is so hard to let go and be free of the fear (or at least have less fear).
Please let me know if anyone feels or has felt this way! Thank you.
MVM
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11-28-2004, 04:52 PM
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emotional rollercoaster - mostly fear!
It is probably normal to be really afraid at this point, however I would advise you to go ahead and do it now. I have so many large tumors now that I cannot have them removed vaginally. When we first discovered mine, they were already too large, so I have been thinking about what to do (procrastinating) for the last 2 years. I am now scheduled for surgery on Dec. 17th. It was also a hard decision for me because i have no pain, just horrid bleeding for 2-3 days every month. But the size of my uterus and the tumors were making it hard for my doctor to examine me.
I think what bothered me was my doctor's casual attitude (you always want to ask the doctor -male- how he would feel if someone suggested he have his organs removed). But to OB's it is so common to do these, they don't always understand why women want to think it over more. I still have a few doubts, but realistically I know it is time. I have had 2 abdominal surgeries, and I really recovered pretty quickly. Just take it slowly, and rest when they tell you to! Also take your pain medicine. Good luck.
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11-28-2004, 05:30 PM
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Posts: 18,379
Hysterectomy: April 28th, 2004
Surgery Type: TVH
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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emotional rollercoaster - mostly fear!
Hi!
Being on an emotional rollercoaster right now is normal for most people. You aren't alone! I also wish the medical community would make more advances to help us keep organs. For me, my TVH wasn't the end of the world and I hope and pray it won't be for you.
If you feel you aren't ready for the surgery, you might consider a second opinion but from what you have said you have already done, it probably wouldn't change much. You are lucky that you like and trust your doctor...that means a lot.
I was very afraid before my surgery but as the day grew closer, I became more positive and ready to get it over with. The fear I experienced was the 'fear of the unknown'. Not knowing what the pain would be like, what my life would be like down the road, etc. I have been very blessed that it was the best decision of my life and it wasn't anywhere near as bad as I expected.
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers that you will be able to let go and enter your surgery feeling positive and comfortable with your decision. It is, afterall, a decision that only you can make. I know everything will work out well for you.
Deb
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