Newbie- Surgery Scheduled

Hi there to all...
I'm Cherie, and I am 23. I posted a Newbie thread in the intro bit to kind of give everyone a background so I won't go into too much detail (again).

My doctor and I have finally come to the decision for a total hysterectomy (10/27/2010). Uterine and ovarian cancer are present on both sides of my family. When I was diagnosed with precancerous cells over a year ago, my dr started really discussing treatment options and where to go from there. In March after several biopsies and 2 separate surgeries, it was found that I had Adenocarcinoma cells... Fun Fun! As a vet tech, I love that I know medical terminology enough to know that pretty much any carcinoma is a not so good thing. After chemo and a couple of trial and error treatments, my dr is concerned that things are not progressing as hoped for. Hysterectomy has always been their #1 option for me, but because of my burning desire for children, I have honestly been very stubborn and opposed to the idea. I felt as though that would be "Giving Up". If there were options to try, I wanted to take them and run!

At this point in my life, I have amazing friends who have become family to me. They are there for me when my own family has chosen not to be. I have 2 adorable nephews and a 3rd on the way (Due 2 days after my scheduled Hysterectomy... Boo!). My best friend is due in February with her first and I plan on being there for all of it!! She wants me to be her coach, cut the cord, etc... I am so excited for the path that my life is taking. Although saddened that my life's path is not taking me necessarily where I wanted it to go with my own hope for a family one day. BUT... I had decided recently that if things were not going as planned, or things started to get worse that I would most definately rather give up on my ONE dream of having my own child, than to give up on all my other hopes and dreams through out my life. I want to be there for those that I love forever. Allowing my cancer to get worse will not extend that time! I know in my heart that there is a child or children who may or may not be born yet that is looking for the right person to be their mom. I just hope that they find me!

I will have loads of questions and will do my best to keep up with everyone else's posts and threads... I need support from people who have some idea what I am going through now and what I will be going through in the near future.

I am about to ask the dumbest question on here and I certainly don't mean to offend anyone.

Before they take your ovaries, can they harvest some eggs, get a contribution from a male partner, have those eggs fertilized and then find a surrogate to carry your baby?

My sister had to have a hysto when she was in her early early twenties. She had already had a baby, but she wanted one with her new "husband" (i say it like that because they've been together almost as long as me and my husband have been together). I would have carried it for her if that was really what she wanted. She made peace with her decision not to, but I absolutely would have done that for her.

I don't know, but before they take your ovaries, some other plan could be made to help you have a child--your child, just carried elsewhere.

I truly hope I haven't offended anyone, and I'm not even sure it's something to suggest here.

Apologies,
Becky

Hi Cherie! I am a 22 year old, and i am very touched by your story. I can't imagine having cancer! I am having a TVH this month, for chronic pain and cysts. I would love to talk sometime. I do have children already, so if it offends you for me to talk about them please let me know! Hope to hear from you soon!!

Sheriff... my dr has mentioned surogacy, but I believe in order to store eggs they have to be fertilized... I'm not sure. We are looking into some options.

Autumn... I LOVE children and I am working towards becoming a teacher. I work with kids regularly. I am glad that I can involve other people's children in my life. I am not offended talking about other's kids. Early on I was hurt and upset that this dream of my own was being taken from me, but I understand now that there are LOTS of options for me. They are an absolute blessing. Yes... Talk away about them!