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06-11-2008, 08:02 PM
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Posts: 13
Hysterectomy: June 24th, 2008
Surgery Type: TAH
Ovaries: Removed both
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Good evening I do not know if anyone else feels edgy before there surgery but boy am I. I am going in for my TAH on June 24 and I am trying to keep my self busy and not really think about it, but I feel so overwhelmed trying to take care of my three boys and husband I am feeling over loaded. I told my husband that I am going to pamper myself before I go in for my surgery But then I feel guilty like how will he do taking care of the kids and cooking etc. I hope I am not the only one that feels this way? Thanks for listening every one!
Marcy Michelle Frown
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06-11-2008, 08:18 PM
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Posts: 755
Hysterectomy: June 8th, 2008
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This is the time for pampering. Please don't feel guilty. I do not have young kids, so that is easy for me to say, but it really is best for you to make time to do what you need to do to feel pampered.
You have SO many emotions right now. You do need to care for yourself.
I went shopping at my favorite place twice, for pretty nightgowns, undies, and a darling robe. You can shop for pretty socks, soft slippers, etc. This really helped me! You may have your own things you love to buy.
I told the sales lady I was having surgery, and she was SO SWEET each time. She would find pretty things I would try on and make my choices. These trips made me really happy.
Nightgowns are always a favorite thing for me. I have Chronic Fatigue and I have to rest a lot and nightgowns are so pretty, they make me happy. So, I made sure I had some that I would not wear before the surgery. I saved them.
I wore my hosp. gown the first day, then put on a new nighty the 2nd day.
I am home now, one week later, in my pretty gowns each day.
Your hubby will need to do lots for you after the surgery too. My hubby is so sweetl. Cooking, cleaning, washing clothes, etc. He is working from home right now, caring for me.
I always thank him and tell him how much I appreciate him. Sometimes we just need help. If you feel happier, the family will be happier.
Keep reading here on the forums. It helped me SO much before surgery! We are all here for you!
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06-11-2008, 08:25 PM
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Posts: 225
Hysterectomy: June 24th, 2008
Surgery Type: TAH
Ovaries: Removed both
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I am with you sister! June 24th TAH/BSO Getting nervous myself.
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06-11-2008, 10:39 PM
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Posts: 15,188
Hysterectomy: September 20th, 2004
Surgery Type: TAH
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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I can definitely relate to how you're feeling right now.
I agree that this is your time to take care of yourself. I remember I made a few shopping trips to buy some stuff for my recovery. I bought a few loose-fitting sundresses because I didn't want to be in the living room in my pj's for six weeks. (Everyone's different that way, but I just don't feel right in pj's in the afternoon.) Before I left for the hospital, I had my recovery area in the living room all staked out and DH made up the couch like a bed in time for my arrival home.
As for feeling guilty about your DH taking care of things for a while... this is what helped me. It's natural to feel guilty when you have to let others help you do what you normally do without thinking. But put yourself in your husband's place. If he had surgery, would you be expecting him to go out and mow the lawn or shovel snow right away? Of course not.
So you're just going to have to do your best to let DH take care of things for a while. The house may not look perfect, but he'll do the best he can. If he complains that he can't handle it, encourage him. If it really gets bad, call someone in to help.
If he can't cook (mine can't do anything more than Hamburger Helper ), remember that there's always 1-800-PIZZA for emergency situations and most restaurants do take out these days.
I was grateful that my DH took great care of me. We had a set of walkie-talkies (really!) because he spent alot of time downstairs in his office and wouldn't be able to hear me. I called him if I needed him, but I was pretty self-sufficient after just a few days at home.
This may also give your husband a better appreciation for all that you do day in and day out for the family.
I wish you all the best and remember your (((sisters))) are here for you whenever you need us.
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06-11-2008, 10:48 PM
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Posts: 52
Hysterectomy: June 18th, 2008
Surgery Type: TAH/SAH
Ovaries: Removed both
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My TAH is a week from today--yikes! I'm sitting here imagining how I'll feel in the hospital next Wednesday night. What makes me most nervous is my stomach does not handle anesthetic or pain meds at all. I'd rather be in excruciating pain than vomiting. I'm planning to talk to my doctor, the anesthesiologist and the nurses. My hospital is very small, so it's easy to get someone to listen. I wasn't nervous at all until yesterday when I had to retreat to the ladies room at work because I started to tear up. I won't have much time to think about it between now and then as I'm so busy at work, trying to smooth the way for my absence. I've always got to solve all the problems! I'm going to need some help relaxing afterwards but know it's essential to recovery. At least maybe I'll sleep--that's sure not happening now!
MJ
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06-12-2008, 04:42 AM
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Posts: 347
Hysterectomy: June 24th, 2008
Surgery Type: SAH
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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Hey Marcy,
I know exactly where you are coming from! I'm also going in for a TAH on the 24th. Right now I'm handling it okay by staying very busy...son just graduated, doing report cards, field trips, cleaning and cooking.... I feel like I'm constatntaly talking about my uterus. My poor friends at school. At least I haven't bothered the men at work yet, but the week before I go in all bets are off! My surgery isn't schedualed until 4pm! I know I'll be a wreck all day so I'm schedualing a pedicure for that morning. I also bought some pretty pj's and some flip flops. I don't feel guilty. I feel like I'm getting ready for a battle and I need all the strength and courage I can get. Wishing you and all lots of strength, courage and esppecially peace. Looking forward to your posts afterwards to see how you are making out.
Take care!
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06-12-2008, 07:50 AM
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Posts: 31
Hysterectomy: June 24th, 2008
Surgery Type: LAVH
Ovaries: Removed both
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I'm scheduled for the 24th as well. I understand how you feel. Both my DS are grown and only one lives at home now - but I still feel bad asking my DH or DS to do things. And I snapped at my DS last night for something really stupid - I caught myself and apologized right away. Luckily both my DS and DH are very supportive and understand that I'm finding the wait difficult. I worry that I will have a hard time letting go and asking for help... it's just not in my nature.
I guess we'll both have to keep reminding ourselves that we only have one chance to heal correctly so we need to ask for help when needed - and if they don't do something exactly the way we would like to just let it go. (Probably will be easier said than done!)
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06-12-2008, 07:11 PM
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Posts: 447
Hysterectomy: June 24th, 2008
Surgery Type: TAH
Ovaries: Removed both
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I know just how your feel. I am also scheduled the 24th for TAH/BSO. (There is alot of us!) I find myself snapping at everyone. I work with 2 year olds and today I was snapping at them. (like they understand what I am going through!) I just don't seem to have any patience for much of anything lately. I guess it is a good thing that I took next week off! Good luck on your surgery!
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06-12-2008, 07:58 PM
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Posts: 539
Hysterectomy: July 3rd, 2008
Surgery Type: TAH
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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Originally Posted by violet grower
So, I made sure I had some that I would not wear before the surgery. I saved them.
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Amen to that - I'm going shopping for new panties, the prettiest I can find, so when I'm completely healed I can TOSS all the ugly stained ones
Are there things you do for your family that you can just let go for a few weeks? Are your boys old enough to handle simple things like picking up clothes, loading & unloading the dishwasher, etc? Mine's 15 and we've already had a discussion with him about my restrictions and what we hope he will step up and help do while I'm home.
I will try to do my best to relax as much as possible before my July 3rd surgery, but I know I'll be working at my job right up until the day before and I'm already making lists for both home and work. I do also feel a bit guilty as my husband has been doing so much already at home while I've had this horrible bleeding since March and been so tired. He's been a trooper.
But I think it's something about being a woman, even in this modern age where many work both inside and outside the home, that we still see ourselves as needing to do it all. I also have a hard time relaxing, but this week at home recovering from the laprascopic on June 6th has helped me realize I will HAVE to take it easy after the TAH and ease back into my daily activities both at home and work.
If your husband was having a surgery comparable to this, I know he realizes how you would be there for him, too. It's part of the love and respect spouses have for one another, "in sickness and health." You can sit down with him and talk honestly about your concerns and fears, and ask him how he feels about your surgery and limitations for the recovery period. This may help you to relax. He sound like a good man.
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06-12-2008, 08:47 PM
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Posts: 13
Hysterectomy: June 24th, 2008
Surgery Type: TAH
Ovaries: Removed both
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Thank you everyone my husband is a good person he is kind and gentle and patient. My boys are 6,7,and 10. They are good I think I am putting the pressure on me. I had three c-sections and never was a coward meaning I got up and did what I had to do to go home and take care of my babies. So I feel like I will have the same strength but allot of people are saying you will be tired laid up for 6 weeks really not able to do anything but sleep I guess it is the on known not being in control. Thanks every one and YES I am going shopping and getting a full body massage and MANICURE AND PEDICURE AND i WILL TRY REALLY HARD NOT TO FEEL GUILTY!
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