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Heartbroken
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04-07-2003, 10:55 PM
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Posts: 181
Hysterectomy: April 8th, 2003
Surgery Type: LAVH
Ovaries: Removed both
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Heartbroken
Surgery is Tommorow and you know what?
My mom or aunt hasn't called or wrote me.
I called them about 2 weeks ago to tell them about it
and I emailed them several times.
I know they know, it's not like they didn't
get my messeges. I haven't heard from them
today. They are very wrapped up in their work and my
younger sisters behavior problems. I can't say I don't
blame them I'm just sad about it all right now.
Hormones maybe? My SO is giving me a hard time
at this hour also. He was going to mop and he
flooded the floor and got our carpet all wet too, tracking it
everywhere. He's causing me to have a very bad night.
He just poured water out of big buckets like he
was in some kind of big store with complete hard floor or
something.
CALGON TAKE ME AWAY!!
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04-07-2003, 11:37 PM
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Posts: 29
Hysterectomy: April 10th, 2003
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I hear ya, sister!!!
{{{txlynn}}}
I am feeling the same way!!! I feel as tho I am about to throw the pity party of all time!!! If I get depressed after all of this it will be because I didn't get the attention I feel I deserve. I have horses and I thought that a few of my girl friends would offer their assistance to me. But NOOOOOOO. I had to ask one to help and she said that she would try. I know everyone has their own lives and problems in them, but I'm not askin a lot here. And to top all of that off, I'm having problems with the paperwork for work so that I get my sick pay, I didn't hear from the nurse today to tell me what time my surgery is scheduled on Thursday, I have not received my packet from the hospital giving me my instructions for pre-op. Nothing about what not to eat or do. I hate this being out of control stuff. And I work all day everyday until surgery. It's not like I have a bunch of spare time to be calling these places and then running around trying to get the products I need at the last minute!!! Oh my gosh!!! I am so sorry to jump in here with my sorrows! But thanks for letting me vent. I do feel better!
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04-07-2003, 11:49 PM
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HysterSister
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Posts: 308
Hysterectomy: May 12th, 2003
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Heartbroken
Ok, honey, take a deep breath and just let it go. I am sorry it seems like your world is crashing in on you right now. Sometimes life just ***** doesn't it. But please try not to worry. It WILL get better. Down the road, hopefully sooner than later, you will be feeling much better both emotionally and physically.
It seems like you have a lot on your plate right now. But with this surgery tomorrow the most important thing on your plate is you. You need to be a little selfish and just not worry about all the other things that are happening around you. Don't worry about your kitchen floor. MEN! At least your SO tried to do something to help out. I am sure he didn't do what he did on purpose just to compound your worries.
Try to concentrate on your frame of mind. Don't take on the worries of the world. I know it is a hard thing to do when you feel so alone, but it is what you are going to have to do to get better. Your body is going to need you to be there for it. Ask your SO to call your mother and aunt and tell them how you are doing after the surgery. If people aren't jumping in to help you out, ask them for their help. Some people are affraid to offer or are embarassed or WHATEVER. Your mom and aunt may be having problems as you said or other issues that you are not aware of. It would be nice for them to call you, but if they don't, it doesn't mean they don't care and it doesn't mean you can't call them again too. If you really need to talk to your mom, then call her. Don't think she has to call you. Just call her and tell her how you feel. We all know this is a big thing but honestly, I have found that a lot of people think it is just a simple surgery, no big deal. My own husband had no idea I was going to need to stay in the hospital 4 days until I just resently told him. Now he is worried because I have been reminding him daily that this IS a big deal. I have also been reminding the rest of my family and friends that I am having this surgery. Not that I want everyone to feel sorry for me or anything but.........well, darn it, I want everyone to feel sorry for me! lol.
Look, I don't mean to ramble, and I am sure you probably won't read this until after your surgery because I am writing this so late...... I just want you to know that it will be ok. If you are scared, you came to the right place. I don't think anyone knows what you are going through quite like the rest of us..... so think of us as your family. Your histersisters. We all care very deeply how you are feeling. And as you start to feel better physically you can lean on us for help with the emotional part if you ever need to, ok. You take care and let us know how you are doing real soon. Don't forget!
hugs, valpal
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04-08-2003, 12:13 AM
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Posts: 181
Hysterectomy: April 8th, 2003
Surgery Type: LAVH
Ovaries: Removed both
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Thanks
I'm still awake (insomnia) so I was able to read the
two posts tonight. Im sorry i sound like a
whine baby..lol
My SO does stuff like this to me to spite and
make us fight. I've wrote about him in several chats.
He was about to Mop the wall where I told him
someone "Missed" in the bathroom. I took it
from him and told him how bad the mop would
streak and stain up the wall.
It's hopeless, I'm here facing this alone, I know
I have the sisters here, and that helps alot.
I'm going to come home from the hospital
and everything is going to be a wreck, the kids
will probably wear the wrong clothes to school,
even if I have them set out. SO will let them run
all over the neighborhood. I know I shouldn't think
like that but I do. So many things to worry about
when I should just be happy I'm almost thru the
surgery.
I will ask SO's mom to call my mom tommorow to let her
know how i'm doing and tell her to call me! !...
i'm going to try to lay down again and hopefully this
time fall asleep... rebecca
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04-08-2003, 01:48 AM
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Posts: 109
Hysterectomy: March 13th, 2003
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Heartbroken
Hi Rebecca
Hope all goes well for you!
My parnets did the same think, they knew when where who and why and what. Not a single email or letter or call. When I awoke they were there, but somehow that just didnt make up for it. I had to just let it go. Some parnets have a real problem knowing how to act when their childeren are going for a surgery. I think even today we as a socitey think that its the parnets that get sick frist not the kids. Its hard for a parnet to say are kids are sicker, somehow I think it makes time speed up and puts life in perspective.
As for hubby sounds like hes a nervous wreck and wants to tell you in his own way he needs you. Let him go for it. If he makes a mess oh well. next time he learn not to do it again.
I hope you get some rest tonight. Dont worry if you dont though. Youll get plenty tomorow. Just stay relaxed and calm.
I was an emotional basket case before mine. But once I got up and left I became calm. i just kept telling my self its almost over. No pain, long periods that come and go as they please. Id finally be able to get up and live again.
Take lots of deep breaths and a good long hot bath, it'll make you feel better.
Good Luck! Best wishes!
carol
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04-08-2003, 01:56 AM
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Posts: 109
Hysterectomy: March 13th, 2003
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Heartbroken
Lady
Call your Dr and Hospital!!!! Those preops are very important! As for the horses call the local 4h, FFA, boy scouts and girl scouts. They get point and patches for helping out and you may be able to find someone that can help you for a few weeks. Ag extestion office can help you locate the local 4H and FFA chapters. Try a school of large church for a scout. Also try humane society if those dont pan out. they may be able to get someone to come out for a few weeks to help too.
Good Luck!!!!!!!!!! I hope all goes well for you!!!
Carol
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04-08-2003, 05:32 AM
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Posts: 29
Hysterectomy: February 18th, 2003
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heartbroken
Lady
I'm really sorry that you are having this stress before you go to the castle.
You are not a whine baby .. we are here to help youget over this.
I know its hard but you just gotta let it go for now. You need to stay stress-free so your recovery is quick and (fairly) pain-free.
If you really cant stand it, tell your SO not to do anything around the house while you are gone .. it really doesn't matter what the house looks like .. you are the one that matters now. He should be in the castle at your side anyhow.
As for the kids, set them some ground rules and see if any of the neighbours can keep an eye on them while you are gone. You could try to bribe them to be good .. promise them something nice when you are all better.
I wish you luck with everything, please post when you come home.
(((HUGS))
Sue
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04-08-2003, 07:35 AM
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HysterSister
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Posts: 18
Hysterectomy: March 7th, 2003
Surgery Type: TAH
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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Heartbroken
Lynn,
Take a deep breath and relax. I know your mother may not had been back in touch with you, but I'm sure she's just as worried and scared as you are. You mentioned that you have a sister with some problems your mother seems to have her hands full. It ok for you to call her and let her know how you feel. As for the SO well just relax. Things will work out for you. If your like me it's not done right unless you do it yourself. But at least he's trying, Ibet he's very nervous too. Good luck at the castle and hope you recovery goes well. Take all the time you can now for yourself.
Barb
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TAH 3/7/02 overies left, patho showed adeno
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