need some advice

I need some fast advice. My mom is taking me to the hospital and staying until I am in my room and I told her to just go home after that because I would be sleeping anyway. My dh will be bringing up our ds and dd after school. We are doing this becasue ds has asperger's syndrome and doesn't do changes well. My mom just calls and asks how long dh will be off work and I said he goes back Tuesday. The main issues money. I have many dear friends coming over to check on me , she freaks out and says he should have taken his entire vacation time. How dod I get it through her head I have it covered?

Kynale, it's great that your mother is so concerned. Some ladies on this board have difficulty getting their families interested in their hysterectomies at all. It sounds like she might be too concerned, though.

How about choosing a calm, appropriate moment before the day of your surgery, and saying, "Mom, I love you. Thank you for being so concerned, but (your husband's name) and I have discussed this, and we have the situation covered. Please don't worry about this any more." After that, if she's still concerned, I'd politely change the subject, as many times as you need to.

One of the famous advice columnists has said that people can't walk all over you unless you allow them to. I realize that your mom isn't walking on you, but she can't interfere in your life unless you allow her to.

Good luck with your surgery!

Best wishes,
Helen

oh, you can do my chicken method, and just not pick up the phone. Screen calls, and then call back the ones you want, when you want. Everyone knows you'll be sleeping a lot, right? Avoids explanations and hurt feelings when your tact may not be at its greatest.
feeling growly, but still sending hugs
akita