Overzealous husband, help!

Confabulus, how well put. My S/O had a cystocope last year, and was put under with a general. He had almost a week of more then "discomfort" and I took care of him as I always do. He said he cannot imagine what I go through even with bladder infections....
JJS-TVH-CYSTOCELE-JUNE 11TH

I have other issues as well (PTSD) that create a problem for us in the relations department. My fear will not go away so I can't wait to "be ready" cause that will never happen. The great thing is my husband knows me all to well and I never get enebriated (sp) to the point that I'm unable to feel pain. I just have to deaden my fear a little.