Creative Answers?

Like the idea of the aliens, zephyr! During my first week back at work, a tutor phoned with a query & when she realised it was me that answered the phone, she asked how long I'd been in hospital for (all she knew was that I'd had some kind of op). Now I've never been a fan of hers & knew she was just being nosy, so I said about a week. Then she said "Oh, it must have been something serious then?", to which I replied "Yes it was" - didn't get any more questions & I wouldn't have told her even if she had had the guts to ask out right!!

When I'm in a lighter mood, I joke to people that I've had a lobotomy - but that it didn't work out very well! That's my excuse for forgetting everything anyway!

Helen

I just tell them the truth, as you said, even if it embarrasses them. What's funny is, a few of my male clients have then told me about their wives, or sisters or even girlfriend's experiences with hysts or other female problems! Sometimes I hear more than I want to!

People are just to flipping nosey & rude. My problem is that I expect people to be as open minded as I am.

Right now - I am just saying I had surgery and if the why? comes up. I tell them a hyst. The jaws drop and the pity starts but it usually ends there. Unfortunately, there quite a few nosey rosies that need to know why. So I usually just have a very flip reply like - 'well when you bleed half your blood supply away every other week - it becomes a problem." That usually shuts them up.

For some reason the hyst question doesn't bother me as much as the kid thing. I understand that I am very fortunate to have my ds, especially since I know all too well that many women can't have children. What blows my mind is the people who think your fertility/family planning is any of their darn business. I had a lot of problems after my DS was born and almost immediately we decided he would be an only. We are fine with it. Do I wish sometimes that I could have more - yea, but that is not the cards that I was dealt. I constantly get when are you having another? "i'm not" Oh he can't be an only child that isn't fair. I then tell them I can't and of course I get the why? I simply say - I just don't like to talk about it & walk away.

OH it infuriates me!!!! No what wouldn't be fair is to have an unhealthy mommy or no mommy at all. How does having a sibling help that? Sorry. I was on my soap box for a minute.

I am just glad we have this place to share, cry, laugh, etc. Kudos hystersisters!

someone on this site had a funny one, she is not, shall we say well endowed, and she told people who asked she has breast enlargement, they would look at her small chest and have the funniest look........

najean - I like that one best of all!

Such good suggestions from everyone.

My job, as a teacher, required me to write a letter to my families and to put an announcement explaining my absence/replacement in the weekly newsletter. All I was required to do was to say I was having surgery. The problem with that is that families get furious with you when you are absent. I didn't want them to think I was missing weeks of teaching their kids for a facelift or something I could wait to do until the summer. So, I decided to tell them I was having major abdominal surgery due to a medical issue that has caused pain since December. My families were very supportive of this and not one family asked for more details. Teachers can be a tight knit bunch. Plus, they supported me the entire school year, when I came to school with no sleep and major pain. They all knew I was working on Vicoden and they felt sorry for me. I told my colleagues I was having a hysterectomy. The custodians (all men) have been awesome! They are ready to be at my beck and call as far as lifting and moving things. They even offered me a hand when I was down on the floor cleaning out a cupboard. I guess it doesn't bother me to tell people I'm close to. I have gotten the "oh" look from some people, or the pity look. But I figure that those are the people who will pray for me, and who couldn't use more prayer? I hope all of you can find just the thing to tell people. I love your stories! I enjoy people with a sense of humor.

I had a quick story about the "arent you having more kids?" comment. And this happened BEFORE I even knew I was having a hyst.

Another lady was talking about the birth of her first child with pride...one of my managers then said, "Well, one is nothing. You are not a real mother until you've had at least two."

Even then I was furious. I couldn't keep my mouth closed and went off about how it wasnt often a choice, and how dare she and who gave her the right...etc, etc. My schedule was really s***y for a month or so.
But I felt better having said it.

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Originally Posted by emichal I had a quick story about the "arent you having more kids?" comment. And this happened BEFORE I even knew I was having a hyst. Another lady was talking about the birth of her first child with pride...one of my managers then said, "Well, one is nothing. You are not a real mother until you've had at least two." Even then I was furious. I couldn't keep my mouth closed and went off about how it wasnt often a choice, and how dare she and who gave her the right...etc, etc. My schedule was really s***y for a month or so. But I felt better having said it.

GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!!! Sometimes I just can't help myself - I open my mouth and before I can stop myself - stuff just comes out. I guess it is my irish temper getting the best of me. But then again, sometimes people just darn right deserve it.

No way! I hated when people alleged that I was doing my son a disservice by not providing him with siblings. I just chose not to have any more and most people didn't know I had a tubal years ago anyway so the hyst didn't prevent me from having kids - I took care of that in 1995!

I too get the "arent" question. And mostly from my former boss (still work in same dept) and she is unable but blurts rude comments from her mouth and you want to blurt them back but I haven't done so yet... It's our bodies people should respect that and be nice. If they are close i do tell them the reason but if they're not they have no right to ask, most don't ask from wanting to assist but from being nosey.