TVH sisters how is your progress

It seems the first thing you should be doing is talking to your doctor and getting something for your depression. Second have the doctor explain to the kids/partner what you went through and their part in helping you get better. If they are old enough to drive, then they are old enough to behave during this very difficult time for you. It is way to soon for you to be taking on driving and chores. They need to pitch in. What is going to happen if you end up back in the hospital for tearing,bleeding, etc. Time to grow up (them) and take some responsibility for you....since you have taken care of them.
DON't worry about the house...no one every died from a mess on the floor, dirty clothes or not vaccuming. It will get done. If your partner is around get him/her to set some rules and consequences..make him/her the heavy and if you can afford it, hire someone to clean/cook, take the baby for a few hours...anything to give you a chance to heal.
Remember this will pass soon, but you need help NOW!!! Don't just ask, DEMAND it...you deserve it.