dVH/RALH 3 months later -physically great but struggling with notion of vaginal cuff....

Thank you to everyone who responded -both seriously and in humor. I agree laughter is sometimes the best medicine. Also, it is comforting to know you aren't the only one feeling this way. Hopefully this feeling that I am just " not right" will fade, it is interfering with my sex life. Just don't feel right, not like me. I didn't want a hysterectomy, my uterus served me well and until diagnosed with cancer never gave me any trouble. I feel bad for tossing it aside (although I know I had to). Very weird, 6 months ago if you had asked me if not having a uterus would bother me I would have said of course not -how silly.....now that it happened it's freaking me out! Thanks again everyone...

mchm

Over time you will figure out the new you. If the thoughts are interfering see if you can find someone to talk to.
I know I've said it many times but my counsellor was my lifeline.

The feelings haven't gone away totally but they have gotten better over time.
One of the latest things I have done is take a 1/4 of a xanax before getting intimate, just that slight dose helps my mind relax.

You are not alone.



G

If it helps, the cervix is the part of the uterus that shuts it off from the vagina when one is not giving birth or not in her cycle to become pregnant. So what is the difference if there is "bumping" on the closed cervix or on the closed vaginal end? I haven't tried it yet, but seems like the "cuff" will be a bit more elastic than the cervix.

camp town

For those that found it stimulating there is a difference.

Part of it is emotional but there is a difference in the physical sensation or it was different for me.

G

I too thought of it at first and wondered if it was the right choice, letting him take it, but I have to tell you that it has been a year and i dont think of it at all. Intamacy is soooo much better

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Originally Posted by Mikiala11 ds9kirys..Regarding being naked in surgery. My op nurse told me she would protect my privacy in surgery. If someone doesn't have to be there, she'll send them out. Quite militant, but I didn't care I travelled to another part of my State to have the surgery and figured except for my doc I'll never see them again. After I delved into how the da vinci robotic hyster is performed and found your feet is higher than your head. All I could think of was the anesthesiologist seeing my large chest hanging toward my face and out. Hilarious. I know in my work I find humor in my customers. He must have had a twinge.

I understand what our saying about the privacy thing and wondering what they do and say while your in surgery. I felt somewhat violated when I woke up after having Divinci surgery to discover that the tissue around my vagina was sore. No one explained that they would be sticking things in there during surgery! I got over it but was still somewhat surprised. I was told they placed you at about a 70 degree angle for the DiVinci procedure. I was on my head for nearly 5 hours. My face was a bit swollen after mostly around the eyes but it went away fairly quickly. I didn't have to worry about my chest hanging though!

I just found this particular thread and I can relate to the feelings you expressed. Tomorrow I'll be at 4 weeks postop and while I've been excited to give the "new me" a whirl in the bedroom (and my husband keeps tabs on his six-week countdown, haha), I worry about what it's going to be like, as well as feeling that now I'm different.

And, as for seeking out someone with whom to talk, I'm a therapist and welcome these sorts of issues, especially since I work in a medical setting, and this life journey is going to certainly enhance my empathy for others in similar situations. I will probably be discussing some of this with my own therapist whom I've been seeing to help me process my father's recent passing (I saw someone else is dealing with this too). This is a major life change and although there are many positives to be gained (better health, no more periods, etc.), there are certainly going to be mixed emotions surrounding it and everyone's experience is personal and different.

Take care my fellow princesses!

gaaah this thread is freaking me out now. If I kept my cervix do I have a cuff as well? Can my husband break through the sock? That would be the LAST time I EVER have sex if that ever happened.

If you kept your cervix, you do not have a cuff. Your stitches closing the canal are way up inside you past the bottom of the cervix so your husband cannot break through. Sex for you will be exactly the same as before in terms of penetration and sensation in there. Your big "O" might be slightly different if you had uterine contractions before. I didn't so sex is exactly the same.