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Unread 11-17-2013, 02:24 PM
Anyone else feel ignored/abandoned by friends?

When I first returned from the hospital, friends seemed supportive ... for about 2 days, then have since pretty much just expected me to do my usual work for them (listen to their boy stories, help them work through issues, etc.) and I'm beginning to feel resentful about it. This, especially since I was there for them for weeks/months after their hardships. Is this just the surgical menopause emotional downs? Anyone else feeling their friends expect them to be 100% and over this? I'm starting to think I should just stay away from them for a while. This forum seems to be the only place where people understand.
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Unread 11-17-2013, 02:59 PM
Re: Anyone else feel ignored/abandoned by friends?

When they come around asking advice, wanting to cry on your shoulder, etc. I would simply tell them that you need to focus on you right now. I'm sure you appreciate that they feel you are the go-to person for advice, but tell them to please hold off for a while and when you feel you are up to it, you will let them know. Hope this helps.
Unread 11-17-2013, 03:12 PM
Re: Anyone else feel ignored/abandoned by friends?

Thanks, it does help. Mainly my friends come from work, and for years I've been the (voluntary) union president, so they're used to coming for assistance when things trouble them. I'd never realized the essence of these relationships before, but I hadn't felt weak or overwhelmed before. I always assumed that as I helped them so they would help me if ever I needed it, but somehow instead I seem to be cast in the "helper" role ... and I can't maintain it right now.

Reading through more posts here, it seems a lot of women are encountering similar things with husbands, SO's and children.

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