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Frustrated (sexually)
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05-30-2016, 03:54 PM
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HysterSister
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Posts: 21
Hysterectomy: April 29th, 2016
Surgery Type: LAVH
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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Frustrated (sexually)
Da vinci assisted lavh April 29th was cleared for sex. Had sex and it was amazing, no cramping or spotting...... Hubby is reluctant to have more sex?! I'm frustrated as my sex drive has gone through the roof!! It's like we have changed places..... I'm the one begging and he holds me at arms length..... I feel rejected and alone.
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05-30-2016, 06:07 PM
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HysterSister
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Posts: 114
Hysterectomy: March 29th, 2016
Surgery Type: LAVH
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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Frustrated (sexually)
I'm right there with ya, Sister! Except that I haven't been released for intercourse, yet. It's been almost 9 weeks and my doctor won't release me until at least 12. She did, however, release me for "outercourse," but my husband is not interested. My libido has kicked into overdrive. I would settle for heavy kissing, but not hubby. He's worried he will hurt me. I don't have a solution, but it's nice to know that I'm not alone.
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05-30-2016, 07:21 PM
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Posts: 1,807
Hysterectomy: June 10th, 2015
Surgery Type: TAH
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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Re: Frustrated (sexually)
I understand what you are going through. My DH was so afraid to hurt me, it took him weeks to build up the nerve for us to have sex. Plus, at least for my husband, recovery was a real eye-opener for him. I mean, did he really want to know about the first, second and third time I had a BM post-op, or that I embraced granny panties for weeks, or talked about my vagina in the same casual terms as asking what was for dinner? Basically, he saw things that he can never un-see and I think that had a big influence on how "in the mood" he was. And I do sympathize because my libido was through the roof too! It may take a little time to convince him that you are ready, all is good and things can be as good or better than before. So I suggest easing into it slowly and set the mood so he can relax and enjoy himself too! Good luck!
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05-30-2016, 08:01 PM
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HysterSister
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Posts: 21
Hysterectomy: April 29th, 2016
Surgery Type: LAVH
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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Re: Frustrated (sexually)
Thank you so much ladies! I am literally here crying and you have ceased the tears. I hope that things get "back to normal" for us all!
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