48hrs post hysterectomy: Is this normal?

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Originally Posted by MrMrsWard Thanks I'm eating just that nothing taste right when it does I get full just after a few bites

The first couple of weeks, I ate frequent healthy snacks instead of regular meals. This worked better for me because I got full quickly. Foods that tasted especially good to me included fresh fruit, yogurt, peanut butter with whole grain toast and canned lentil soup.

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Originally Posted by MrMrsWard Well glad it's just not me I was feeling bad cause the way I feel about her I don't remember her being nasty

If you're noticing personality changes, this could be a sign that something's beginning to go wrong physically and/or psychologically. Does she usually live alone?

Once you're recovered from surgery, you may want to start a conversation with her about maybe going to see her doc for an assessment. You may also want to have a conversation about what happens when she can no longer live on her own without any help.

My siblings and I got blindsided because we didn't realize what was going on with Mom until she had a fall and was hospitalized. She didn't break any bones - but she *was* diagnosed with dementia and Parkinson's. Suddenly the doctors were telling us that she couldn't live on her own anymore and we had to figure out what to do. It was a conversation we should have started having much earlier.

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Originally Posted by classyiam31 I know what you mean!! I'm 8 days post op and my mother, who has mild Dementia, came over to visit me today. Oh boy!! It was draining...love her so much but I was worn out when she left.

Ikr I asked her bout her health but when I asked have she been checked for Dementia she flew off d handle so I just dropped it thanks for d advice

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Originally Posted by traken21 My mum had a vacation booked for two weeks after my op - I made sure she went!!! I had da Vinci and the shoulder pain was bad for a couple of weeks but walking - even just short ones - really helped, as did lots of peppermint tea.

Yes I got d bot too almost turned into bikini cut I been trying to send my mom to her friends 😱 but she won't go
As far as d shoulder pain didn't understand why shoulder hurt when bot worked on belly 😂😁 just so confusing now when I walk it hurts my legs/knees swelling up

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Originally Posted by Fort123 There are few people in this world who love you as unconditionally as mothers do. Why is it that most comments about mothers these days are so negative. As a mother and grandmother this negativity saddens me - is it the in thing to be so critical of their love and care?

I love my mother it's just that I'm scared that she's not telling me her real illnesses I just wanna make sure she is 💯 I do anything & everything for my mom cause I know I only have one

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Originally Posted by SurprisedInNB If you're noticing personality changes, this could be a sign that something's beginning to go wrong physically and/or psychologically. Does she usually live alone? Once you're recovered from surgery, you may want to start a conversation with her about maybe going to see her doc for an assessment. You may also want to have a conversation about what happens when she can no longer live on her own without any help. My siblings and I got blindsided because we didn't realize what was going on with Mom until she had a fall and was hospitalized. She didn't break any bones - but she *was* diagnosed with dementia and Parkinson's. Suddenly the doctors were telling us that she couldn't live on her own anymore and we had to figure out what to do. It was a conversation we should have started having much earlier.

Yes I will do that I already talked to my little brother but he really don't do nothing for her since he married his 2nd wife I took everyone's advice & just not saying nuttin to my mom bout what she does

Maybe don't use the word dementia. The fear of Alzheimer's gets stronger as we age. Instead say something like when I feel better what do you think about seeing your doctor to find out why you are not yourself. You know there are over a 100s treatable illnesses that can cause personality changes (or whatever you want to call the problem) if caught early enough.

As for talking to her about arrangements and wishes later on, first point out that your surgery made you aware of how little preparations you had made if something happened to you during surgery. You were wondering what are her wishes. Find a way to ask if she has a will and medical directive or at least what kind of care and when not to. Maybe you can talk about your thoughts and then get her's.